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Commenters in a popular internet thread supported a bride after she called out her cousin's fiancée for her inappropriate behavior during her wedding.
The anonymous woman, known only as u/No_Cloud_8277, posted about the incident in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received nearly 14,000 upvotes and 600 comments.
The Reddit post can be found here.
As psychologist and marriage specialist Bonnie Maslin told Glamour, while it is not always possible to avoid all drama during the wedding day, there are a few ways to minimize the toxicity.
One tip Maslin offered is to remember that the best way to understand guests' feelings is to openly communicate and remember it is impossible to make everybody happy.
"Start conversations with questions," Maslin said. "Don't interrogate, which can create defensiveness. Instead, be open to discovery. If your dad has a potential issue, ask, Is this hard for you?' "
In the post titled "AITA for ruining someone's day during my wedding?" the woman, 26, explained that her traditional Punjabi wedding was a few days ago.
In the post titled "AITA for ruining someone's day during my wedding?" the woman, 26, detailed her recent traditional Punjabi wedding.
"For some context, I have 3 brothers and no sisters. In traditional Indian weddings, there are certain ceremonies where you would need your female relatives to be a part of. Since I have no sisters, my cousins stepped in," the post read.
She explained that her family has a strained relationship due to petty fights.
The woman said that her 18-year-old cousin is shy and most of the older cousins are protective due to her younger age.
For one of the traditional ceremonies, the bride insisted the cousin be involved because she thought she would "genuinely enjoy" and would be too shy to ever ask.
"One of my cousins fiancée's (28F) however, is quite the opposite," the post read. "She constantly likes to put herself in the middle of everything, despite already being told of her given duties during the ceremony."
During one of the ceremonies, the poster said there is supposed to be one female relative who sits behind and takes care of the bride. The bride said she told her younger cousin that she would be the one involved in the ceremony, but when the day came, her cousin's fiancée took the girl's spot.
The bride said she was confused but that after the ceremony, her younger cousin said the fiancée took her spot and "scolded" and "yelled" at her, saying she was "too young and doesn't know anything."
Despite the cousin's protest, the fiancée told her to sit with the other guests. When the bride heard this, she said she was furious.
"The fiancée took what was meant to be a special moment and made it all about herself," the post read. "I sat the fiancée down and told her that she had no right to do what she did and I was extremely upset with her for doing so. Apparently she was so upset by this conversation, she refused to come for the other ceremonies the next day."
The bride said she was fine with this because she doesn't like adults who "throw temper tantrums," but her cousin said she has no right to speak to his fiancée like that.
"Now his entire family has been constantly saying a lot of negative things about my family and the whole situation. AITA?" the post concluded.
In an update, the bride said she received a call from her photographer saying they were offered a large sum of money to delete all the wedding photos and say the memory card was corrupted.
"I honestly do not even know what is wrong with this woman, and why on earth my cousin would even consider marrying her," the woman added.
More than 600 users commented on the post, with the majority supporting her decision to tell her cousin's fiancée that their behavior was inappropriate.
"The fiancée should have discussed the change with you first and not gone against your wishes," one user commented. "If family is mad tell them that you are too because the fiancée overstepped your boundaries by making a decision on your wedding."
"You should point out that she spoiled your day and it was your day," another wrote.
"Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She did something nasty and selfish and probably assumed you wouldn't call her out on it but you did," another added. "Good on you."
Newsweek reached out to u/No_Cloud_8277 for comment.
Another bride went viral on Reddit after saying she did not want to wear a traditional western wedding dress despite her future mother-in-law's request.
In other viral wedding news, commenters supported a woman who bought a wedding dress for a stranger but refused to pay for her daughter's dress.
Just this week, another bride went viral on TikTok for stopping her wedding after realizing she was missing half her dress.
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