Bride Dragged for Expecting Nephew To Choose Wedding Over Holiday

A woman has been slammed online after she berated her brother for letting her nephew go on vacation instead of attending her wedding.

In a viral post on the popular U.K.-based website Mumsnet, user Poppymonty3 shared the story, which has gone on to receive more than 170 responses.

The user said her brother had told her two weeks out from her wedding that her nephew would not be attending as he would be going on vacation with his mother.

In the post, the user said she had been planning the wedding for about three years and that she was excited to have her nephew be there.

According to the wedding-based website Brides, 40 percent of 500 newlywed or engaged couples in a 2020 Zola survey said wedding planning was "extremely stressful." Another 71 percent thought it was more stressful than other major life events like finding a new job.

The user said in the Saturday, May 14 post: "I have given my brother a hard time because I can't believe he is telling me this two weeks before my wedding. I have spent a lot of money per guest and have brought gifts for my nephew.

"I love my nephew to bits and have a lot to do with him, so I am gutted he won't be there. My brother has said he can't 'tell him what to do' because he is 15 years old. I disagree massively, he is a child and shouldn't be choosing to drop out a couple of weeks before?

"If I had known this months ago I would have to change my seating plan which has been printed as his name is on it. I have fallen out with my brother now to the point where he is also now not coming to my wedding.

"He has not apologized for my nephew not coming or offered to help pay for him not being there. I am really disappointed with my nephew but I feel his dad should put his foot down about it? Am I blowing things out of proportion?"

Despite revealing why she was upset, the majority of people who commented believed she was being unreasonable. Many said it was not surprising that a teenage boy would prefer to go on vacation than attend a wedding.

One commenter said: "You are, it's rude of him and annoying, but yeah falling out with people over it is daft. It's your wedding, not your nephew's, he's also 15 so of course he doesn't want to miss out on a holiday for a wedding."

Another added: "Yes, I think you are blowing it out of proportion. A 15-year-old has been offered a holiday by his mom who, unless there's a good reason, probably shouldn't have booked a holiday knowing he had prior commitments.

"A 15-year-old is obviously going to choose a holiday over what to him would probably be a pretty boring event and your brother is stuck in the middle."

A third posted: "At 15 there is absolutely no way I'd have gone to a wedding over a holiday. You're angry with the wrong people. It's not his, or your brother's fault, that this was offered to him."