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A bride has been slammed online after confessing to wanting to cancel her wedding, just a day before the big day.
The woman took to popular Subreddit "Am I the A**hole" for advice on her tricky situation after her husband-to-be was left upset by her decision.
According to a 2013 study by research firm The Wedding Report, around one in eight engagements don't end in marriage. Unlike many of those, which are a result of relationship problems and bust-ups, this bride-to-be's decision lies with her sister.
In the post she explained that her expecting sister, who was set to be her maid of honor, had just suffered a miscarriage. The sister felt unable to participate in the celebrations, causing the bride-to-be not to want to go ahead with her wedding without her sister there.
The bride-to-be said that she woke up in the morning, the day before the wedding, with texts from her sister sharing the sad news of the miscarriage.
"I can only imagine the grief my sister is going through. She can't attend my wedding and even though everything is already booked and we had some guests flying in for the wedding, I just can't have it without her. I thought my fiance would understand, but instead, he got extremely upset.
"We've been planning this date for a while now because it's his mother's birthday and very special to him. But, it would make my sister devastated if I had it without her since I know she was looking forward to it."
The engaged woman added that she can't "stomach" the big day without her sister there, and planned to begin packing and head to be with her sister 14 hours away, "My fiance is definitely mad," she wrote.
Despite being sure of her idea, Reddit users were quite the opposite, dubbing the bride-to-be the "a**hole" in the situation.
"You have to do what's right for you, and if the most important thing is your sister then absolutely pack your bag and go to her. I sympathize with her loss," reasoned one user, before countering that: "afterwards, don't come back; your fiance deserves a partner whose priority is him. [Sisters'] miscarriages do not outweigh weddings for most of us, so I side with the groom. This is the kind of thing you make note of in a marital toast while carrying on, then sending a wedding video to the person who couldn't attend."
Another user agreed about canceling the wedding for good, writing: "You think your sister was looking forward to your wedding more than your fiance? Remember to return the engagement ring."
"You are wasting tons of money, tons of other people's money and their time for one person," rationalized one user.
"If you're willing to let everyone else around you crash and burn for your sister then that's your choice, but that would be a deal breaker for me if I was your fiancé. There would be no rescheduled wedding. Do you even care about your wedding?" they added.
"It's entirely in your right to prioritize your sister, but don't expect others to stick around, especially not your fiancé. He deserves someone who puts him first on his wedding day."
In an update, the bride-to-be noted that she took in the responses online and decided against her own initial judgment and instead has decided to continue with the big day.
"We're going to have it despite the loss of my niece and record it to send to my sister when the time comes. We made up for the most part and decided we aren't going to have a maid of honor at our wedding," she wrote.
"Thank you guys. Would've made a stupid decision without 99 people calling me an asshole."
Newsweek reached out to u/autumxnn but wasn't able to verify the details of the case.
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