Bridesmaid Claims She Received 'Cold Shoulders' for Not Giving up Necklace in Viral Post

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A bridesmaid has gained online support after she claimed in a now-viral Reddit post that she received "cold shoulders" at a wedding ceremony for refusing to let the bride, Mary, wear her necklace.

She shared the story in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" forum on Tuesday under the username u/BlueRoses95. So far, the post has received more than 13,000 votes and over 2,000 comments.

In the post, the bridesmaid explained that her fiancé gifted her the necklace.

"Our 5th anniversary of our first date was 2 months ago and he got me a beautiful opal necklace on a gold chain specifically to wear to the wedding because it complimented [sic] my bridesmaid dress," she said.

"I asked Mary in our bridal party group chat if she was alright with us wearing our own jewelry to the wedding, she said no problem," she continued.

According to advice from wedding company Zola, the bridesmaid was right to consult Mary about the necklace.

"Jewelry that the bride may give the green light to for a night out or another special occasion may not be what's acceptable for her wedding," the site said. "Rather than assume, make sure to check first, especially if you're thinking about wearing a trendier piece."

The wedding site also encouraged bridesmaids to avoid going "overboard" with their jewelry and to stay true to their personal style.

But Mary didn't find the necklace gaudy or offensive. In fact, the bridesmaid claimed that Mary loved it, so much so that Mary asked the bridesmaid if they could "switch" necklaces.

Other members of the bridal party loved the idea, and said that the bridesmaid's necklace could serve as Mary's "something borrowed." However, the bridesmaid refused to hand over the piece of jewelry.

"Mary and the other bridesmaids were persistent, saying it was her wedding and her pictures and I wasn't being accommodating, but I firmly told them no," she said.

When it was clear the bridesmaid would not let Mary wear the necklace, Mary allegedly asked the bridesmaid to remove the necklace. Again, the bridesmaid refused.

"I received a lot of cold shoulders and dirty looks at the ceremony and reception. I felt awful. After the first dance, Mary's sister came up to me to tell [me] just how upset Mary was and [how] rude it was that I upset her so on her big day," the bridesmaid concluded.

So, she asked Reddit: "[Am I the a**hole] for refusing to remove a piece of jewelry at the request of my friend on her wedding day?"

Commenters were quick to defend the bridesmaid.

"NTA [not the a**hole]. You asked if you could wear your own necklace, bride said yes. She should have never asked for it, should have never requested you take it off. If she is that concerned about a necklace in pictures clearly she shouldn't be getting married. Pictures are to remember a day of celebration, love, and happiness," commented u/1001labmutt02.

Redditor u/Zestyclose_Meeting_8 said: "NTA. The 'something borrowed' needs to be a token lent willingly. Not something taken by force or pressure! Your friend was way out of line."

In agreement, u/TappingTheKeys added: "It's 'something borrowed,' not 'something extorted.'"

"NTA. I have a feeling you would have never seen that necklace again," said u/BibiQuick.

The bridesmaid told Newsweek on Wednesday that Mary is still upset.

"I believe she still thinks I'm an AH [a**hole], which [is] fine, her opinion. I'm truly tired of the drama with her as is my fiancé, I've texted her this morning that she'll not be welcome at my wedding this summer. She has not responded."