Friend Bashed for Telling Man's Embarrassing Story at Dinner Party: 'Cruel'

The internet has bashed a friend after exposing a man's embarrassing story at a dinner party.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a friend under the anonymous username u/djdkgjeis shared their story to receive opinions of the "AITA" community.

The original poster (OP) began their story by explaining they recently went out with a few friends and one friend, "John," got very drunk to the point where they couldn't walk. One of their friends suggested they get John an Uber home but the OP insisted he could stay with them for the night.

Once John got out of the car, he ended up passing out in a puddle, getting drenched in the rain. The OP had to "drag him inside" where John could barely move and urinated on himself. The following morning, John was very embarrassed for his actions and apologized for "being a burden" and was happy that the OP took care of him. John paid the OP for cleaning supplies, ended up cleaning his own mess and bought the OP breakfast.

They didn't see each other until a friend's dinner party. "At the dinner party I kept saying 'John had an uh-oh the other day, John why don't you tell everyone' then he kept saying no and this isn't respectful of his boundaries to keep pushing if he said no. Then I showed everyone a video of John twitching and passed out because I thought it was harmless and funny. John was like this isn't the place and then I was like John tell everyone what happened."

"The next day John texted me 'listen sorry I was a burden, but I didn't intentionally do that. I think it was unnecessary and cruel you tried to humiliate me at a dinner party with all our peers' then blocked me. I didn't think it was a big of a deal as he made it," they concluded.

Newsweek has reached out to u/djdkgjeis for comment.

Newsweek has published several articles regarding conflicts in friendships, including a man who was bashed online after he referred to his friend's child as "baggage," the internet backed a man for telling his friend that he's not the "victim" after a breakup and a woman was backed for telling her friend the father of her baby will never love her.

How to take care of a drunk friend

Friends help each other out in more ways than one, especially if one is drunk. According to au.reachout.com, here are important ways to keep your friend safe if they are very drunk:

• If you notice that a friend had too much to drink, you stay with them to prevent any trouble or accidents.
• Ease them off the alcohol and get them something to eat.
• If your friend needs to lie down, have them lie on their side. If they vomit, this prevents them from choking.
• Make sure they get home safely.
• Call for help if your friend passes out or can't be woken up.

Redditor reactions

U/EmpressJainaSolo slammed the OP, receiving the top comment of 23,000 upvotes: "[You're the a**hole]. Your friend was clearly ashamed of his behavior. What happened was scary, embarrassing, and probably a low point for him. He was extremely apologetic and made amends immediately. Being so sick and so out of control sounds like a big deal to him, potentially even life changing."

"The fact that people passing out twitching from alcohol poisoning happens so often in your life that you find it hilarious enough to film to share at the dinner table is concerning. What happened isn't normal and isn't safe. If it is normal for your life then you need to start making changes immediately," the commenter continued.

"[You're the a**hole]. What was the point of taking a video? And showing it to people after he asked you not to continue. You are a seriously sh**ty person and you need to rethink how to react when people are begging not to be embarrassed," u/DrPepperSocksNow wrote.

"[You're the a**hole] You seriously see nothing wrong with filming an unconscious person without their consent, and then sharing the footage while the person is STANDING THERE BEGGING YOU TO STOP?! At least all your friends now know not to trust you to take care of them," u/Cavane42 said.

"People are saying [you're the a**hole] because you shared his embarrassing story without permission and they're absolutely right, but honestly you're also [the a**hole] because you went to bed and left a dude who seemed to have alcohol poisoning passed out on your floor with no regard for his health. You're very, very lucky he woke up instead of choking to death on his own vomit or going into a coma," u/peppermintplant pointed out.