Fury as Bride-to-Be Tells Bridesmaid to Not Get Pregnant Before Wedding

We've all heard of "bridezillas" who obsess over their wedding and make all sorts of unreasonable requests, but one in particular has been slammed online for being immature and a "nut job" after asking a bridesmaid to avoid pregnancy until after the wedding.

In a post shared on Mumsnet last Saturday, the bridesmaid, under the username LilyPad11, said that she had a miscarriage in August but that she and her husband want to try to conceive as soon as they're ready.

However, her friend, who is getting married in December 2023, and asked her to be a bridesmaid, told her she's not allowed to get pregnant before the wedding. Otherwise, the friend will be "really angry" at her, the poster wrote.

Ninety-five percent of bridesmaids genuinely enjoy their duties, but their role comes at a high price, according to Vogue. The average bridesmaid spends, on average, $1,200 per wedding. And if you count dress alterations, bachelorette parties or gifts, the cost can easily escalate to over $1,820.

Marni Goldman, a spiritual certified life coach, told Newsweek that in this instance the bride-to-be "missed the memo" regarding the definition of a best friend. "When you have a relationship, whether it's marriage or friends, they are in your life because you love them unconditionally," she said.

Addressing the poster, she continued: "Unfortunately, your best friend, and I say that loosely, is putting conditions on you. Where is the love and compassion? You've suffered a miscarriage. A new baby is not a burden, it's called a miracle. Anyone who doesn't recognize that, quite frankly, doesn't deserve to be in your life.

"This is such a sensitive topic, and she just showed you, by her actions and words, she is not a friend. Of course, you shouldn't put your conceiving plans on hold. Live in the moment. Surround yourself with uplifting, positive people. You deserve that. I pray you get your miracle baby," Goldman said.

About 98 percent of the 3,871 users who voted on a Mumsnet [Am I Being Unreasonable] poll agreed the original poster was not being unreasonable, and so did most of the 379 commenters in the thread.

One user, Circumferences, commented: "Oh my god! Bridezilla alert. That's so ridiculous I don't know where to begin. What did you say??"

Bevelino added: "OP, you are clearly not being unreasonable, your conception plans are absolutely nothing to do with your friend. Good luck with your pregnancy journey."

Another user, Bonjovispyjamas, wrote: "I'd be telling her to f*** right off!"

AffableApple said: "Yep. Tell her she's an immature loon. Her [bachelorette party] will be a nightmare. She will be a horrible bridezilla. She has no consideration for you. Walk away. Selfish cow."

OnlyFoolsnMothers said: "Back out now she's a nut job and is going to demand you buy an expensive dress, go in several hens (1 abroad obviously) and stay two nights before, and the night after at a wedding venue in the middle of nowhere."

Tandora wrote: "I'm guessing your friend was probably joking??!! Not that it was a kind/appropriate joke, but I'm sure she couldn't have meant it seriously. Otherwise she's the most self-absorbed, ridiculous human on the planet. Don't give it another thought in terms of your feelings around [trying to conceive]. So sorry for your previous loss. Sending you baby dust."

Newsweek was not able to verify the details of the case.