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A boyfriend has been mass-criticized online after his partner expressed concern over sharing the code to her safe, filled with over $100,000 in expensive gems and jewelry.
The anonymous 32-year-old took to Reddit to share her situation, explaining that she works as a gemologist and spends her work day in a lab identifying and testing stones.
Thanks to this, she has an extensive "large and valuable" collection of jewelry and gem specimens. According to the woman, it is a six-figure collection which she keeps in an installed safe which only she knows the code for.
"I own my home and my boyfriend of two years recently moved in as he was renting before. I gave him the code to the smaller safe so he could put valuables in it, but he also wants the code for the gem safe," she shared.
"Not to put anything in it, but he says because we are living together now I should trust him and give him the code. I've said 'no' because he has no reason to open the safe as the only thing it's used for is storing my collection.
He's said he has no interest in my gem collection, doesn't want to look at them, but still wants the code to access them.
"He's said he has no interest in my gem collection, doesn't want to look at them, but still wants the code to access them," she added, before asking the age-old Reddit question of who is "the a**hole."
"This is causing tension because he says I should give it to him as a show of trust, and I said no, because he literally has no reason to go in there so he doesn't need the code."
Arguments after moving in together are far from rare, and research has found that over half of couples end up breaking up after moving in together. A survey by Good Move found that leaving clothes everywhere, leaving the toilet seat up and not doing the washing up are the biggest problem-inducing issues faced when moving in together.
Alarm bells were left ringing for Reddit users however with this very different issue after moving in together, as users rushed to warn the woman against sharing any codes.
"I wouldn't trust anybody with the code. Money does weird things to people. Even the ones you trust completely," wrote one user.
"There is no reason to know. I really don't follow his reasoning. He doesn't want to go in your safe but he wants to be able to? What is he? A cat?" added another.
One user wrote: "Is he serious? Ask him to give you his bank card PIN, email passwords, account passwords, etc because you now live together and see what he says."
"Do not ever give him the code," advised one person. "His attitude and demand is alarming. Red flag for sure."
In response to the huge attention received online, the woman concluded that she plans to stick to her guns and is not giving him the code. "It's a huge marinara flag and i'll be telling him to pack his stuff," she wrote.
