Parter Preparing To Expose Husband of 20 Years for Cheating Warned Online

A woman who discovered her husband has allegedly been cheating on her and is planning to confront him about it received a wave of support on U.K.-based Internet forum Mumsnet, along with some words of caution.

In a post noting that she hasn't "felt this happy in years," the woman under the username Slippersandacuppa said: "I found out a little while ago that my husband is on several dating sites and has met up with several women. He upset and scared one of them and she got in touch. I will forever be grateful to her."

The user said life has been "unbearable" with her "narcissist" husband. "On paper, we look like the perfect family with a husband who would do everything for his family. But that is so far from reality."

The original poster said she plans to tell her husband that she knows about his alleged infidelity after a meeting with a solicitor.

The wife said: "I'm ready to fight for as much as I can for the kids' sake," but has "no doubt he will try to ruin me," noting "he chose to move overseas with work so I don't think custody will be an issue."

She said: "I'm speaking to him normally—he's banging on about how much he loves and misses all of us and can't wait for us to go and see him (we're due to fly out later this summer)…I'm looking forward to it actually, I just want it done now so I can move on and have a peaceful life."

"I never had a spark with him…I am looking forward to one day having butterflies—it's been over 20 years!!!," the wife said in a later post.

According to Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., a professor of psychology at Monmouth University in New Jersey, some key motivations for relationship infidelity include anger, esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, desire and situation, based on a December 2020 study published in the peer-reviewed Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.

Several users shared messages of support for the wife in the Mumsnet post, with some warning her not to take the children abroad to see her husband.

User OnceAnElephant said: "No words of wisdom needed OP [original poster], you have seen him for the disgusting pig he is. Well done for getting your shit together and good luck and positive vibes for your new life !!"

Veryverycalmnow wrote: "He sounds absolutely horrendous. Good luck with the process. You're going to be free!"

Several said it was important for the original poster to get all her paperwork ready before taking any other steps.

MissisBoote said: "I would wait a while before you tell him you want a divorce. There's absolutely no hurry to tell him until you're 100 percent ready with copies of paperwork etc. Agree about not flying out with children—you absolutely don't want to risk losing them abroad. But well done on making the decision and taking control of your future."

Brigante9 also said: "I echo, don't take the children abroad to see him. Gather all paperwork, give someone copies plus the dc's [dear children's] passports."

LorW said: "I would 100 percent be making sure there was no way he could take the children out the country…and I certainly wouldn't be taking the children to him, please don't do this OP. Also P.S. you've got this!"