Internet Backs Woman Who Refused To Let 'Boyfriend' in Her Dorm Room

The internet has come to the defense of a college student who refused to let her "boyfriend" into her dorm room in a new viral post.

Posted in Reddit's infamous "AmITheA**Hole" forum, a young woman, u/6fcr6es, asked the community if she was in the wrong by not letting her boyfriend see her while she was in college.

She started off the post by explaining how she broke up with her now ex-boyfriend, Jon, during the holiday break. However, Jon refused, claiming that she would regret it later on. She confessed to him that she was a lesbian. After the long discussion, he didn't take the breakup seriously.

"I had gotten texts every few days from Jon telling me he loved me forever. I texted back the first few times saying we were broken up but he just didn't want to hear it," she wrote.

While at school, which was a couple states over from her hometown (and where Jon was), her RA came to her door and told her there was someone in the lobby that wanted to see her, claiming to be her "boyfriend." Confused, she told her that it must be a mistake. The RA said that he knew everything about the OP (original poster) and was giving the security guard a hard time.

U/6fcr6es panicked, "I was like 'holy s**t no. You can't let him in. I broke up with him and he won't leave me alone, I had no idea he was even coming here let alone showing up unannounced. I need to study for an exam tonight!'"

The RA was very kind and told her that she would handle it and that the Reddit user to continue to study. OP had her phone on do not disturb mode and continued to study for her exam.

After the exam the next day, she was nervous to look at her phone. She received countless texts from Jon that kept getting worse. He claimed that he had no place to stay, no car and his mom had to pay for his flight home.

In recent edits to the post, she admitted that she felt guilty for not getting him a bed for the night and thought that she lead him on for so many years because she convinced herself that she was bisexual due to her unaccepting hometown. She knew that she was a lesbian since she was a teenager, but was afraid to come out.

Commenters were quick to defend the OP and even tell their own toxic relationship stories.

In the top comment, receiving 10,100 upvotes, @No-Giraffe-438 said, "This guy sounds like a psycho. who the f**k doesn't "allow" someone to break up with them...you are not the a**hole for not letting him in. He legitimately sounds dangerous. Be careful."

In response to the Redditor's popular comment, u/Missy_went_missing shared her story of a toxic ex, "Reminds me of my first bf. He threatened he'd kill himself if I broke up with him. We were 15, I believed it. After a year I finally ended things. And guess who's still alive and did very much not kill himself?"

Many people had similar stories like the one above.

"OP really should stop to feel guilty. You can end a relationship always. If she realized that she is gay or just unhappy... no difference. And let's be real, with this man breaking up was just a question of time. He came to her dorm to try to "force" her to let him stay because he knew that she is a nice woman. He tried to guilt-trip and manipulate her by saying that he has nowhere to stay, his mother now can't pay her rent, sob sob. Nobody asked him to do this sh**! She broke up weeks ago! Please block him, OP. And stop feeling guilty," @Sheeps_n_Birds wrote.

"Your ex has become a stalker, and you have made it clear to him that you'll never be with him no matter what. Block him, and don't engage any of his comments. He is not stable, and you want nothing to do with him," u/ed_lv exclaimed.

"For starters, it's perfectly understandable that you were in denial/in the closet/still figuring yourself out, especially in the kind of environment you described. Lots and lots and lots of people don't fully come to understand/accept themselves until college. Also, imagine if you were straight. You went off to college, then came home over break and broke up with Jon -- you told him that you still like men but you've grown apart from him and don't want to be together. In that situation, his behavior would still be completely out of line. It's not about you being a lesbian, it's about him being unable to accept rejection. Which is totally on him and not on you. You did nothing wrong," wrote u/sarita_sy07.

Over 19 million women were victims of stalking, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Help is available. Those who need it can contact he National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or by visiting the website.