Internet Berates Woman For Trying To Honor Deceased Daughter At Living Daughter's Wedding

Moderators of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole locked the comment section of a viral post after users berated a woman who asked the subreddit if she was in the wrong for a heated argument she had with her daughter.

In an explosive Reddit post, u/Mother_Put_1042 explained that her eldest daughter, Brooke, had passed away when she was just five years old and that, in the years since Brooke's death, she had honored the memory of her deceased daughter at every holiday celebration and family event.

"I was blessed with three beautiful children and unfortunately, my eldest, Brooke, passed away when she was 5 years old. It rocked my world and I know I haven't been the same since," she wrote. "I will never let my daughter be forgotten. I bring pictures of her to events such as holiday celebration and birthdays. I talk about her all the time."

Adding that she thinks about how her children are now older than Brooke was when she died, u/Mother_Put_1042 revealed that she planned on honoring her deceased daughter at her living daughter's upcoming wedding.

While weddings serve as celebrations of love between the living and matrimony that is supposed to last a lifetime, honoring dead family members is common place at weddings, and there are numerous articles that explain the best and most tasteful ways to do so.

Last fall, Brides.com published a list of eight potential ways to honor loved ones who have passed away at a wedding. Some of those included incorporating special flowers into boutonnieres and place settings, adorning bouquets with family heirlooms, and adding a special note to the ceremony program.

The list also included displaying family photos — including those who have passed away — and reserving a seat or table in their honor.

According to u/Mother_Put_1042, she planned to honor Brooke's memory with a special table at her living daughter's wedding, but much to her dismay, her plans were quickly vetoed.

"My daughter, Marnie, is getting married next month. I asked her if she was having a memorial table and she said no. I asked her about creating a seat for her sister who passed, as she should be a part of the day. Marnie told me no," she wrote, before detailing her fiery response.

"I told her she was being incredibly selfish and until she goes through a loss like this, she'll never understand," u/Mother_Put_1042 wrote. "I told her she should be ashamed and to get over herself."

Concluding her explanation, u/Mother_Put_1042 said her son said she was "being terrible" and asked the subreddit if she was the "a**hole" in this situation.

In the post's top comment, which has received 40.2K votes, nearly three times as many as the original post itself, u/VictorianPlatypus answered with a resounding "yes."

"You do realize tht you've made your living children feel like they don't matter, right?," they wrote. "YTA. I cannot imagine your loss, but you've hurt your two living children by never allowing them to move on, and in your fear of having Brooke forgotten, you have ensured that they resent her memory."

In another comment, u/juytddde said the original poster was obsessed, and that her living children probably wanted her out of their lives.

"I understand wanting to keep a loved one's memory alive but there's a time, place, and prioritization for it ... OP's life revolves around the deceased daughter, so much so that it's sickeningly offensive for op to put the other children second place," they commented. "I'm not gonna sugarcoat my words cause OP's grieving. I don't like op at all. She's not a good or even a decent mother to her children right now ... Is Marnie happy? No. She wants your grief out of her life."

Receiving nearly 3,500 comments, u/Mother_Put_1042's post sparked such intense emotions throughout the comments that 10 hours after it was initially posted, an r/AmITheA**hole moderator put an end to the discourse altogether.

"K. We're all set here," u/SnausageFest wrote. "Locked."