Internet Drags Mom Ditching Fiancé's Family Wedding Last Minute: 'Rude'

Weddings truly seem to bring out the worst in people. One woman recently went viral for wearing white to a friend's ceremony, while an absentee guest caught flack online for ditching a pal's nuptials without warning.

Now, one Mumsnet user has received a stern talking-to from fellow internet moms, after planning to ditch an important wedding last minute.

Posting on the AIBU [Am I being unreasonable] forum, user Kinderoo asked: "Aibu to not go to this wedding?"

In their post, which has received more than 200 comments since being posted on Monday, the user explained that she did not get along with her partner's family. She feels that his relatives "don't care" about her and ignore her needs, but not attending will likely damage the relationship with his family beyond repair.

She wrote: "I'm just tired of him and his family constantly putting my needs second and their needs first.

"I've had a hard couple of years with all of them and it felt like [Darling Partner] and me was finally making improvements but lately all we have been doing is bickering again and he has NOT been listening to me or my wants. He has been very neglectful.

"Me and [Darling Partner] are meant to be getting married myself, we have [Darling Child]. I'm aware that me not going to this will most likely [sever] all ties with him and his family and will cause unthinkable damage."

However, the wedding is now less than a week away, with Kinderoo and her partner already having spent over £100 ($125) on outfits and a gift.

She continued: "I'm starting to wonder why I'm always the one that bends my back and gives gives gives.

"All just to make him and his b***** family happy. When no one cares about me.

"So Aibu to say to [Darling Partner] I'm having serious doubts about not going?"

Although users sympathized with the woman's predicament, most felt that ditching the ceremony so close to the day would cause unnecessary drama.

Bananarama21 said: "I think it would be extremely rude to pull out within the week when the couple have paid for your place."

LibrariesGiveUsPower agreed, writing: "Going to a wedding of your fiancé's family isn't generally a big ask.

"Most of us would do that without question even if we didn't particularly like/know family member or like weddings.

"[You would be unreasonable] to pull out so late, and you'll cause unnecessary drama."

According to a survey of 2,000 British people by Steven Stone Jewellers, potential family arguments are a top-ten reason a guest might choose to skip a wedding. Some 11.7 percent said they'd decline an invite to prevent falling out with relatives, but the most popular reasons for not attending were cost, travel time and their partner not being invited.

In the comments, Kinderoo further explained the issues with her partner's family, adding: "[Darling Partner] got physical with me once and his parents sided with him and didn't ask about me. If anything they said I provoked him.

"This was years ago but his parents never apologised to me and its ate away at me ever since.

"I just feel like a mug if [Darling Partner] hasn't been treating me the best but i put a lovely smile on my face just to go along to this wedding to appease him.

"Its always about him."

Many users suggested that Kinderoo's relationship issues were a more pressing concern than the wedding.

MoobsAreNotBoobs commented: "I wouldn't go to the wedding but I would end the relationship.

"He has been violent, he doesn't seem to make you happy and his family sound awful.

"Please realise you deserve better, you can actually have a happy life."

ComtesseDeSpair agreed, writing: "Your problem is very clearly that you need to end your relationship. The wedding is irrelevant."

While JohannSebastianBach said: "You won't get an apology from them. But they aren't the problem, your partner is.

"With all this going on you really should rethink getting married. It won't get any better because you have exchanged vows.

"I would go and make the best of it and have a long hard think about what you want in the future."

Mumsnet recently backed a guest who wanted to pull out of a wedding for other reasons. Sharing her husband's story, one user explained how her husband dropped out of a friend's wedding party after another guest threatened to sue him.