Internet Slams Man For Going Against Wife, Giving Mom a House Key

Online commenters have slammed a man who purportedly angered his wife by giving his mother a copy of their house key.

Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A******" (AITA) forum under the username u/Keyissue_505, the man asked: "AITA for letting my mother have a copy of the key to our new home despite my wife's objection?" The post has garnered over 14,000 upvotes and more than 6,000 comments from commenters who said u/Keyissue_505 and his wife need to make decisions together. You can read the full post here.

In his post, u/Keyissue_505 said he recently bought a home for himself and his wife.

"[The house] was purchased solely by me. [M]y wife did not help save for it...and it's in my name," he wrote. However, he later added that his wife paid their bills for a time while he saved the money for their new home.

To celebrate the purchase, u/Keyissue_505's parents threw a party, during which his mom asked for a copy of the house key.

"I let her have it, which made my wife upset. She didn't say anything at the time, but she waited [until] we were alone and started [an argument] with me, saying I shouldn't have let my mother have a copy of the key," u/Keyissue_505 said.

"She said that she does not feel 'comfortable' with the idea of someone else, who's not a resident, [having] a copy of the key. She also [said] my mother didn't pay a penny towards the house, so this should 'disqualify her' from getting the key," he continued.

Upset, u/Keyissue_505 told his wife that as the sole owner of the house, he gets to decide who can and cannot have a key. But this only further angered his wife.

"She screamed at me, saying that 'technically' she [contributed] towards the house savings back when she used to pay for our rent and daily expenses while I saved money," he said. "We've been going back and forth on it since then. She's now 'letting me know' that if I don't take the key back, she'll do it herself."

An Expert Opinion

Dr. Diana Kirschner, author and CEO of Lovein90Days.com, told Newsweek that couples must work together if they want a healthy marriage.

When faced with tough decisions or challenges, Kirschner advises couples to implement "10-minute listening sessions, where one spouse speaks about an issue, and the other listens—with no comment."

"Then the spouses reverse roles. In this way, they can come to understand each other's deeper needs," Kirschner said. "In [u/Keyissue_505's] case, the wife might speak about needing to be number one in her husband's life. Or she might talk about her need to feel secure and protected based on a chaotic childhood. [Meanwhile], the husband might speak about [his] relationship with his mother."

Redditors React

Redditors agree that the couple needs to work as a team, and they bashed u/Keyissue_505 for not consulting his wife before giving his mother a house key.

"YTA [you're the a******} because you didn't speak with your wife before you gave someone else the key and because you act like she's not important," u/mamasqueeks said. "You should be a team. Stop undermining your wife and take the key back."

"YTA. That is your partner and teammate. Decisions are made together, not separately," u/MK_King69 wrote.

u/guppytub added: "You are married...As your partner, you should be compromising and making decisions TOGETHER. That includes discussing who else has access to your (YOURS and HERS) house."

Newsweek has reached out to u/Keyissue_505 for comment. We could not verify the details of this case.

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