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A man has taken to Reddit to share he "messed up" marrying his wife on account of their differing sex drives and to ask the internet for advice.
The 24-year-old, known online as Environmental-Tour-8, explained on the discussion-based site that he has been married to his wife, 23, for two years.
He described their union as a "perfect match in every way except one," which he ignored because he loved her "so much and still do."
The man then went on to reveal that the pair are sexually incompatible, writing: "She is happy with sex 1-2 times a month, doesn't masturbate, is incredibly vanilla, and still after 5 years together blushes when I say the word sex."
He continues: "I on the other hand would prefer 6-10 times a week or more, am incredibly kinky, and have been bottling all that up for 5 years blaming our lack of a private space on why our sex was so basic and infrequent."
According to a study conducted in 2018 by the General Social Survey the Redditor's situation is not uncommon as 19 percent of married couples had sex two to three times per month.
Additionally, 10 percent hadn't had sex within the past year, but the highest proportion was 25 percent of couples revealing they do the deed once a week.
The disgruntled husband explained he has tried everything from "subtle hints to direct conversations explaining my need for more physical intimacy I am trapped.
"She simply doesn't have a libido or kinkiness remotely close to me. And there is nothing wrong with that.
"Everyone is different but I need more physical intimacy but I courted her, I proposed to her, and I promised to be her rock forever. And now I don't know what to do."
He ended the post by asking for advice and explaining he wants to be her rock "but cannot deny an entire part of myself... I see no way it gets better for me without hurting her."
The story has gained lots of traction on Reddit, having attracted more than 20,100 upvotes.
Nearly 4,800 people have rushed to the comments section to share their opinions on the husband's post, with most offering their support.
Psychological_Love_2 related to the story poster, explaining: "Honestly, I'm having the same problem but in reverse. My husband and I always argue about how our sex drives are so different.
"I'm on birth control and all of these discussions get me depressed because it makes me feel like I'm the problem."
Jewelle1618 offered her view on the basis that she "was/am that wife." She then went on to describe being "deeply disturbed by sexual things for a long time."
However, she went on to reveal that "learning more about terminology and physiology helped reduce some of the stigma for me.
"I'm in my 30's now and am more interested, but only in some aspects of sex... just had to find what I liked and it took a lot of learning for me to find that."
Rux_ruxrux commented: "Sorry to ruin this for you, but you married too young."
Others suggested that it could be the result of factors including the wife's hormone levels or the medication she is on, while others advocated therapy.
Doughnutdiva addressed these many comments by writing: "Please for the love of all that is holy, do not make her feel like there is something fundamentally wrong with her or that she needs to change.
"I see a boatload of comments that encourage you to try to get to the bottom of why homegirl's libido is near-zero, talking about this like it's a problem that needs fixing.... Remember that this is a matter of severe incompatibility, not a personal flaw of hers (or yours)!"
BxGyrl416 mused that the relationship may not work, typing: "As long as you don't have kids, lots of property, or wealth, you can get out of this young pretty unscathed."
