Man Backed for Refusing to Support Stepdaughter After She Was Cheated On

Commenters criticized a woman's "hypocrisy" for telling her husband that his daughter could not stay with them but then asking if her daughter could move in indefinitely after she was cheated on.

The original poster (OP), known as u/housingAITA00, posted about the situation in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received more than 10,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments. The post can be found here.

In the post titled "AITA for refusing to house my wife's daughter after she refused to house mine?" OP explained that he and his wife have been married for 10 years. He added that both he and his wife have children from previous marriages.

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OP said he has a 19-year-old daughter from a previous marriage and his wife has a 26-year-old daughter with her late husband.

"We both agree to not discipline each other's kids and that we wouldn't be a parental figure for neither of them," the post read.

Last year, OP's daughter left for college and was offered an inexpensive room. However, the daughter's roommate made her uncomfortable by staying in all the time and she decided to move out early.

"She asked me for help since I'm the one who lives closer, my ex and I asked my wife if my daughter could come live with us for a month, while we got her another place," the post read. "She said no because for her ''my daughter was running from being an adult.'"

OP's wife added that they shouldn't "coddle" her and that she is "acting like a baby" thinking mom and dad should fix everything. OP ended up finding his daughter another place but said the incident put a strain on the marriage.

"Now, her daughter got married 2 years ago and recently found out that her husband cheated on her," the post read. "My wife 'decided' she should come live with us indefinitely and that we would fully support her because she was a SAHM."

But OP said he said he wouldn't do that and that the longest she could stay was two weeks, enough time to find another place to live. OP said his wife "flipped" on him, saying it isn't his choice since they both own the house. He said if that's true, she shouldn't have had a say in whether his daughter stayed with them.

"I thought it wasn't fair she was expecting me to drop everything for her daughter while mine was 'just acting like a baby,'" OP wrote. "She called me an AH, said this was totally different then went to our room and hasn't come out yet. She refused to eat and I'm wondering if she's right."

More than 1,000 users commented on the post, many criticizing OP's wife for being a hypocrite.

"The hypocrisy of your wife is stunning," one user commented. "Her daughter can live in 'your' house indefinitely, but your daughter cannot stay for two weeks?? Tell her there is one standard. Adult children will be helped, or they won't be helped."

"I would just repeat 'I will welcome your daughter in the exact same way you welcomed mine,'" another user suggested.

"Either do marriage counseling or divorce. Your wife was cruel by refusing to house your daughter for a few weeks," another commented.

"NTA. Hope your next marriage turns out better than this one," another wrote.

Newsweek reached out to u/housingAITA00 for comment.

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