Man Bashed for Wanting To Give Daughters His Late Wife's Childhood Items

A man has been slammed online after wanting to give his late wife's childhood possessions to his daughters.

Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a sibling under the anonymous username u/Vivid_Law_705 shared their story for feedback from the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 6,000 upvotes and 900 comments.

The Redditor began their post by explaining that their sister, "Anna," passed away eight years ago. She had two sons named "Milo" and "Luca" and they were "her whole world."

When Anna knew that she wasn't going to make it, she asked the original poster (OP) to look after some possessions of hers including jewelry, fancy art supplies, stuffed animals and other important childhood items. Anna knew that her husband would move on one day but wanted those specific items to be given to Milo and Luca and not her husband's children. They promised her the items would stay in the family and were planning on keeping them.

However, the OP's brother-in-law knew about Anna's plan and wasn't happy about it. The OP wrote that he felt "betrayed" and her items should be considered his as well. Legally, he wasn't allowed to have the items.

The Redditor explained how the conflict began, "My former BIL remarried 6 years ago and has two stepdaughters as well as a bio daughter. Luca and Milo come to my house one weekend a month (which was ordered by the courts) and while they are with me they have admitted to feeling like their dad wants them to treat the three girls like their mom's kids.

"He had asked them to ask me to give the girls the jewelry and stuffed animals."

"The boys also told me he had shown the girls the photos of the two of them with the stuffed animals and the girls got really jealous. They said they don't want their mom's stuff to go to them. I promised them it would not and I would give it to them one day.

"Former BILs oldest stepdaughter is turning 13 soon and apparently she wanted my sisters locket or a lookalike. He approached me about it and I told him no way, He told me I was being selfish and they are Milo and Luca's sisters and Anna's memory should be shared with them and they should feel like they have a guardian angel looking out for them," they continued.

The OP explained to their former brother-in-law that Anna wanted the items to stay in the family and that he and his three daughters "were not entitled" to the possessions. He called the OP out, saying that they should treat and accept them as their family. The Redditor explained that they won't let their brother-in-law's kids see the possessions as they don't want them getting too close to them.

Newsweek reached out to u/Vivid_Law_705 for comment.

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Redditors reactions

U/redditAloudatnight9 questioned, receiving the top comment of over 9,000 upvotes, "[Not the a**hole]. And wow, how did your sister predict your BILs future behavior so well?"

"I'm not sure," the OP replied, "I never expected her to worry about that stuff but when she got sick she did. She would never tell me where it come from either. But I have to wonder if it's how he responded once they learned she would die."

"Only [a**hole] here is BIL—why would the girls even want the stuff if he weren't showing it off trying to manipulate the situation to get the things. So weird. [Not the a**hole]," u/EwokCafe exclaimed.

"[Not the a**hole]. Did BIL leave his heroin stash in one of the stuffed animals or something? This is pretty weird behavior. I can only imagine he wants some or all of those things for himself for some reason, and has manipulated the girls into wanting them in an attempt to get them back," u/damunzie commented.

"[Not the a**hole]. This is EXACTLY why your sister was so concerned. Stand your ground and call him out that this is precisely why his wife didn't trust him and asked you to look after the stuff, and that you will be sticking to that very promise to her," u/No_Substance_6082 explained.