Man Cheered for 'Embarrassing' His Sister-in-Law at Her Wedding

The internet has sided with a man who "embarrassed" a bride during her own wedding day because she asked for her first dance with his 6-month-old baby while tipsy.

In a post shared on Reddit on Sunday, titled "[AmITheA**hole for 'embarrassing' a bride at her wedding?" the man who goes by the username u/Spirited-Departure76, explained that he's "not fond of his brother's wife" since before the wedding because he believes the 23-year-old woman "tried to insert herself into [their] family very quickly."

He said in the post: "They were only together for eight months before they got engaged. I do my best to play nice for my brother's sake. I agreed to be one of his best men, but expressed my concerns to him both before and after I accepted."

According to Brides.com, most couples date for two or more years before getting engaged, with some dating anywhere from two to five years. The average length of engagement, once a proposal is made, is between 12 and 18 months.

The median age for a first marriage in the United States keeps going up, and in the past few decades, it has increased from 23.2 for men and 20.8 for women in the 70s, to 29.8 for men and 28 for women nowadays, according to data from the U.S. Census Bureau.

During the wedding, which featured an open bar, the bride, who according to the post was "at least tipsy," asked him if she could have a first dance with his baby, which he saw as a "cute gesture," but "politely declined."

He said: "She and I don't have much of a relationship outside of your usual pleasantries, and I don't feel comfortable with her holding my son."

When she asked again, the man's husband got involved and told her a "stern no." After the wedding reception ended, the man's brother, the groom, sent him some "pretty scathing texts," saying he totally embarrassed his wife at her wedding and that she was very upset.

The post which was first shared on the r/AmItheA**hole subreddit has so far gotten over 9,200 upvotes and 1,200 comments, and users have mostly established that in this particular incident, the poster is not at fault.

The top comment, BadgerinBaltimore23, which gathered over 18,000 upvotes, said: "[NotTheA**hole] a baby isn't a prop to be passed around." And doriangaay added: "especially to a drunk person. [NotTheA**hole]."

OptionSea2490 commented: "No one is entitled to your child. NO ONE. Not family, not friends, not extended family. He said no and she should've left it at that. And no one said that the husband said no loud enough for everyone in town to hear.

"He was just more stern about it. A child isn't a prop to use during a wedding and she was already drinking so depending on how small the child is they probably didn't want to risk her dropping THEIR child."

Other users though, thought that while he wasn't at fault in this particular incident, he was still being petty just because he doesn't like her.

Musicgirlbr said: "OP [Original Poster] is [NotTheA**hole] for not letting an intoxicated person hold his baby. But if he hadn't mentioned this particular incident, I would have totally voted [YouTheA**hole] because it 100% sounds like OP doesn't like his [SisterInLaw] for no apparent reason. I got complete petty vibes from you towards your brother's new wife.

Another user, re_nonsequiturs wrote: "OP choosing to include the unnecessary information, and ONLY the negative unnecessary information, just showed me OP is an [A**Hole] who happened to not be the [A**Hole] for one moment."

And boudicas_shield added: "This is a pretty extreme overreaction. She didn't try to kidnap or endanger the baby. If you would seriously become unglued and start screaming at someone for asking to hold your baby, loud enough for 'EVERYONE in the whole TOWN' to hear, I think you need to find ways to calm down a little bit and adjust your perspective."

Newsweek reached out to u/Spirited-Departure76 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.