Man 'Kicking' Girl Out of Friend Group When She Wouldn't Date Him Dragged

The internet slammed a man for kicking a girl out of a friendship group because she did not agree to go on a date with him.

Poster u/bartooper10 explained: "I've been getting so much s**t for this that I decided to get a little judgment on here."

The 26-year-old explained that he has been in a long-standing friendship group, most of whom have been friends since high school.

According to a YouGov study on friendship, 12 percent of respondents said they have just one person that they consider a close friend, while 41 percent say they have two or three close friends, and 16 percent reported having more than six close friends.

When it comes to where people meet their friends, 44 percent said that close friends originated from work, and another 41 percent said that their close friends are people they have known since their school days.

In the post, the Redditor explained that one of the members of the group was Zoe. He said: "We've hung out plenty of times. But I would describe our relationship as causal friends. We follow each other on social media and talk in the larger group but never one-on-one hanging out."

But despite not being close, he revealed that he has had a "low-key crush" on Zoe for some time, and last month, things changed: "I got kinda drunk and messaged her late at night about possibly hanging out," he said. "She messaged me back in the morning and said she would like to hang out but more as just friends. I told her I understood, but I knew what that meant so I never reached back out."

Having feelings for a friend is not uncommon, in fact, a recent study revealed that nearly 70 percent of romances begin as friendships. Meanwhile, 18 percent of people surveyed reported that they intentionally became friends with their now-partner due to romantic attraction.

The poster continued explaining that his parents own a bar where he typically bartends on weekends before going out. The friendship group are regulars at the bar and he frequently invites them to come out. He had recently sent a group invite including Zoe, and she showed up and immediately started chatting.

"I was working so I kinda just moved along," he explained: "I charged her full price the whole night and she started complaining to the other girls about it which ticked me off. Yes, sometimes I will give free stuff out to my friends but this isn't all the time. Yes, I used to hook up Zoe a lot, but that was before she said we were friends."

The Redditor was also frustrated by another part of the girl's behavior, explaining that he had invited a girl to come to the bar and Zoe had introduced herself to her "completely out of the blue," and proceeded to explain that the pair were good friends until he asked Zoe out.

"The girl I invited wasn't happy and I had to spend the next hour explaining that away," he said. "So the next time the group went out. I sent Zoe a text and told her to please not show up. She is more than welcome to meet us out later but I didn't want to deal with her at my bar."

When the other friends heard about his request for Zoe not to join in, they confronted the man. "They said it was unfair not to invite Zoe because now she feels isolated. Our whole friend group hangs out here, so banning her is essentially banning her from the group," he said. "But Zoe is weird and is causing issues, so it is her own fault."

After reading the story, Redditors overwhelmingly rushed to slam the man's behavior. One commenter said: "YTA [you're the a**hole]. Zoe thought you were her friend. You weren't hitting on her since the get-go, you acted like her friend and hooked her up with free drinks under that premise. Then as a petty vengeance, you decided to ban her from the place the group socializes."

"Women are not machines you put kindness and friendship into to get romance and sex out of," said another commenter.

Another Redditor wrote: "So you supply this girl with drinks, for what seems like months if not years, in the hopes that she will hook up with you, and when she doesn't want to, you punish her? Lmao yeah dude, YTA."

Newsweek has reached out to u/bartooper10 for comment. We were unable to verify the details of this case.