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A man took to Reddit to reveal that his wife gets a lot of "hate" for being a "homemaker," igniting a debate that has the internet torn.
The viral post, shared to the subreddit "Antiwork," is titled, "The amount of hate wifey gets for being a 'homemaker' is crazy," and it has garnered 12,300 upvotes. Redditor @monk8919 shared the post on May 11, saying that he and his wife are 32 years old.
According to a Gallup poll, 56 percent of women would prefer to work as opposed to being a homemaker. In addition, 75 percent of men have a preference for working outside of their homes.
The couple doesn't have kids, and they don't want them. However, they have four animals. The original poster (OP) works, and his wife stays at home. When people ask him what his wife does, and he explains that "she literally takes care of everything," their "expression" will change, "especially with the no kids thing."
They'll ask what his wife did "before" that, and he admitted he gets "judgment," especially with "older women."
The OP revealed, "[The] only people who respond positively [so far] are really conservative old guys congratulating me on being a provider for my family. I must be taking crazy pills."
Redditor Reactions
Newsweek reached out to Redditor @monk8919 for comment, and over 2,000 comments rolled in over the viral Reddit post, and people have strong opinions on both sides.
Some agree with their living arrangement.
I would love a house husband. I fricking hate cleaning and cooking and general house management/care. Both you and your wife scored a sweet deal, congrats dude.
Another Reddit user revealed they have children with their spouse, but they are in school. Their wife will sometimes ask if she should perhaps get a job, and they say, "'F**k no! Work sucks! I make enough for the both of us.' Even if she got a job, she wouldn't make enough for it to make a big difference in our finances. So as long as she wants, she can stay home. If she's stir crazy and wants to work? Go for it."
"I would love a house husband," another user pointed out. "I fricking hate cleaning and cooking and general house management/care. Both you and your wife scored a sweet deal, congrats dude."
While one Redditor thinks people that question it are just "jealous," adding that they "wish" they could be like the OP's wife.
"I'm sorry, I bet a lot [of] people assume you forced her [to]," they said. "Like women don't like being a stay-at-home wife or mother."
To the Contrary...
One Redditor thinks women, in particular, will get suspicious if a wife "doesn't have an escape" because of the possibility of "financial or physical abuse."
"Get used to it," they added. "Males will obviously congratulate you either way."
Some added the concern from other women could have a purpose behind it, adding that the OP's perspective "is a bit biased."
"One of the reasons other women might be concerned is that your wife seems fully dependent on you, and they may assume she has no career backups or financial independence in case anything goes wrong," they said.
Your wife won't have the savings or necessarily the skills to support herself, it's a pretty big power imbalance.
Another user shared the same sentiment, saying that a woman who doesn't earn her own money and isn't building assets and retirement herself "is at the mercy of her breadwinning partner. If the partner can no longer provide, what then? While no one should judge, I'd never actually advise a woman to not work."
Another believes that the cause for women looking at situations like this "skeptically" is because it takes away a woman's "ability to fend for herself if things go wrong," adding, "Your wife won't have the savings or necessarily the skills to support herself, it's a pretty big power imbalance."
A Reddit user called the situation "weird," asking what happens if they don't have a job and the relationship falls apart. They reasoned it's a substantial gap in a resume to explain when adapting to supporting oneself.
"You probably get bad looks from women because they wouldn't want to be in the position of having to be provided for by someone else," they added.
This isn't the only viral moment involving relationships.
A wife was backed for a sex sign used to keep her mother-in-law out of her bedroom.
The internet is praising a woman for leaving her boyfriend who said they "can't be equal."
And a husband was slammed for inviting his mother on a couple's trip.
