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A man revealed in a now-viral post that he recently fled a couples' trip because he was upset by a drunken comment his girlfriend made about their relationship.
Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum under the username u/boatlyfe12, the man said the comment was made during a "couples' game." The post has garnered more than 7,800 upvotes and over 6,000 comments from heated Redditors who said the man "overreacted" to his girlfriend's admission, and suggested that he apologize to her.
In his post, the man explained that he met his girlfriend of two years, Kenzie, through his childhood best friend, Grace.
"Grace and Kenzie were college friends and I never thought I had a chance. Kenzie is beautiful and while I'm not ugly, I've always felt like we weren't in the same league. [I have] no idea how I got her and I still don't," the man wrote.
To his excitement, Kenzie surprised him with a birthday getaway to his favorite lake last weekend and invited all their friends. He said the weekend started well but, on Friday night, after a few drinks, things got a little tense.
"We started drinking and playing games," he said. "Kenzie's sister broke out this couples' game. Basically, you pick one person in the relationship that fits [a] description or it prompts debates between couples."
One of the cards asked players: "What originally attracted you to your significant other?"
Kenzie, who was "pretty drunk," responded by saying that her boyfriend was "safe," adding that she knew "he wouldn't cheat [on] or leave" her. When her boyfriend asked for clarification, she said: "You seemed nice enough and after my abusive ex I wanted a safer option."
The man said he was hurt by Kenzie's comments, so he called Grace, who encouraged him to leave. Later that night, after everyone had gone to bed, he packed his things and left before anyone woke up in the morning. He texted Kenzie to tell her that he didn't want to fight, and told her that they could talk when she got home.
"When Kenzie showed up at my place Sunday she was fuming, saying that my leaving early ruined the whole trip," he recalled. "She rented a boat (I love boating) and felt like I disrespected her efforts/money to put together the trip. I told her that I didn't feel like arguing so I went home to avoid the drama."
The Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness defined relationship abuse as the "pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner."
The center went on to say that abuse can be "emotional, financial, sexual or physical and can include threats, isolation, and intimidation."
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), almost one-third of women ages 15 to 49 who have been in a relationship "report that they have been subjected to some form of physical and/or sexual violence by their intimate partner."
Considering his girlfriend's past, commenters slammed u/boatlyfe12 for overreacting, saying that being "safe" was nothing to be ashamed of or offended by.
"YTA [you're the a**hole]. This seems like a wild overreaction. She had an abusive ex and thought you were a good guy who would treat her well and value her. What's the problem?" asked u/ElNachoDelFuego.
"What is wrong with being safe? Safe is the person you trust, the one you expect to be there when you really need them, the one that makes you relax, want to stay, make plans with and find ways to grow close to. Considering her history, that is most likely a very precious thing to her," said u/Missepus. "Sadly, you overreacted, and now this girl who felt safe with you has learned that no, she can't trust you to be there for her when the going gets uncomfortable after all."
Redditor u/edwadokun added: "YTA—it sounds like you're projecting your own insecurities onto her...You owe her a HUGE apology."
Other viral AITA posters included a bridesmaid who caused her friend to be slammed with a $500 cleaning fee, a pregnant woman who was treated like a "valet" by her husband and a woman whose husband purportedly took money from her disabled sister.
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Sara Santora is a Newsweek reporter based in Florida. Her focus is reporting on viral social media posts and trends. ... Read more