Man Slammed for Taking Partner's Credit Card and Not Giving It Back

The internet has slammed a man for taking his partner's credit card and not giving it back in a post going viral on social media.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a partner under the anonymous username u/throwra213533 shared their story to receive feedback from the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 7,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began their story by explaining that they had been together with their boyfriend for over three years. They have been "jumping" from one job to another while he has been unemployed due to his physical disability, which affects his opportunities for work. The OP has been paying for rent, bills, groceries and other necessities.

Recently, their boyfriend asked for their credit card. When they asked why, he told them he wanted to go buy some food. They handed him their credit card but wanted it back when he got home.

Once he returned and the OP wanted their card back, he thought he should keep it so he "could start handling paying for stuff" on the OP's behalf. They felt uncomfortable with his statement and said that they would "rather not burden him" with financial situations. He still refused, saying that they should trust him and that he "swore" he wouldn't use it.

The OP said, "Next morning I went and cancelled it, then registered a new one. He must've had tried to use it because he called and was confused asking why the credit card was not valid anymore. I told him it's because I cancelled it and registered a new one. He lost it and started scolding me saying he couldn't believe I had this level of petty and kept on about how I don't trust him with my finances. and how financially abusive I have become lately. I hung up on him."

"The argument continued at home and he called me paranoid and unreasonable and all that. Then he started cold shouldering me and sulking about it for days. I do feel like I hurt his feelings and showed an amount of distrust towards him," they concluded.

Newsweek has reached out to u/throwra213533 for comment.

Signs you're in a toxic relationship

Do you believe you are in a situation similar to the OP's? According to Healthline, here are some toxic relationship red flags:

• If you find that your partner is no longer supportive or showing a lack of interest in things that matter to you.
• There isn't much positive communication anymore.
• You notice their behavior has become more controlling out of jealousy or a lack of trust.
• If you tend to lie about where you are to either get away from your partner or out of fear of their reaction if you tell them the truth.
• You constantly feel stressed in the relationship.
• You notice negative behaviors regarding money, including violating a budgeting plan.

Redditor reactions

"[Not the a**hole]. He 'swore he won't spend a penny from it' followed by 'the next day he must've had tried to use it.' Your instincts were excellent, as was your decisive and immediate action. You know what he wanted was wrong. Trust yourself," u/Reenvisage said, receiving the top comment, with over 11,000 upvotes.

"[Not the a**hole]. Maybe time to cancel your boyfriend as well," u/meanchrochethook pointed out.

"[Not the a**hole]. 'Trust'??? He has no business mentioning 'trust' after literally stealing your credit card and trying to use it," u/frogmuffins said.

"He found out you cancelled it because he tried to use it even though he promised he wouldn't but you're the paranoid one right? [Not the a**hole]. He's definitely gas lighting you too," u/maria_puente87 commented.

U/dontwannadoittoday exclaimed, "[Not the a**hole] but I really hope you evaluate your relationship. This is definitely grounds for separation. He's gaslighting you by claiming you're financially abusing him. He is using you and then throwing a fit when you cut off his resources since apparently he's a lazy bum who is draining you!"