Mom Applauded For Calling Cop to Escort Boyfriend's Daughter From Home

A woman received online support after sharing in a now-viral post that she had a police officer escort her boyfriend's 19-year-old daughter from her home.

Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum under the username u/Independent-Safe1780, the woman explained that the cop in question was the teenager's uncle. Still, the woman's boyfriend said she "crossed a line."

The post has garnered over 9,300 upvotes and hundreds of comments from supportive Redditors encouraging her to kick her boyfriend out as well.

In her post, u/Independent-Safe1780 explained that her boyfriend moved in with her and her 11-year-old son three weeks ago.

"My boyfriend has a 19-year-old daughter named Jess who visits him on the weekends and lives at home with her mother. [I] literally never had any issues with her up until my boyfriend moved in," she wrote.

Apparently, Jess turned into a "b**chy snob," and approached u/Independent-Safe1780 with a list of demands.

"Like she wanted me to kick my son out of his room so she could have [a] room with an attached bathroom," she said, adding that Jess also tried to "parent" her son on numerous occasions.

Last week, u/Independent-Safe1780 warned her boyfriend that if he could not learn to control Jess, then Jess would have to leave. Her boyfriend begged her to give Jess a chance, stating that Jess was having problems with her mother. But u/Independent-Safe1780 wouldn't hear it.

"I told him that [it] wasn't my problem and that in my house [my son and I] were not going to be treated like s**t because she can't control her emotions and wants to take her resentment out on us," u/Independent-Safe1780 wrote.

So, her boyfriend had a chat with Jess, but this only made things worse. Following their conversation, Jess approached u/Independent-Safe1780 and said, "I don't know what game you're playing here but respect is earned, not given and I will not be granting you respect until you prove to me you deserve it."

Jess then walked into the living room, stole the remote from u/Independent-Safe1780's son and demanded that he move. Angry, u/Independent-Safe1780 told Jess to leave, but Jess refused. So, she called Jess's cop uncle for backup.

"My boyfriend says I crossed a line so I told him he can leave too," u/Independent-Safe1780 concluded. "AITA?"

'Disrespectful' Adult Children

According to Dr. Carole D. Lieberman, a California-based psychiatrist, "hissy fits" are a natural "youthful reaction" to divorced parents dating. Of course, this reaction doesn't always stop as children grow into adulthood.

"Children of all ages feel betrayed and abandoned when their parents divorce because their cozy nest is disrupted," Lieberman told Next Avenue. "This even upsets kids who are already out of the nest. The message their parents are sending is that it is more important for them to have a life of their choosing than to remain in their prior, primary role of mom or dad."

To keep things easy between an adult child and a new partner, Lieberman advised parents to "prioritize family time." She also encouraged parents to negotiate with their adult children and address uncomfortable issues.

"Don't let your children dictate how everything goes," Lieberman said. "Give in where you have to, but stand your ground when it's important to you."

Redditors React

Unfortunately, save for one conversation, u/Independent-Safe1780's boyfriend hasn't stood his ground or talked to Jess much about her attitude. As such, Redditors applauded u/Independent-Safe1780 for kicking Jess out and encouraged her to kick her boyfriend out as well.

"Oh, hell no, you're NTA [not the a**hole]! That girl needed a boot, right up the a**...You [are] infinitely better off without either of them," u/Justaf**kingegg wrote.

"NTA. Funny how your BF didn't follow her out the door when challenged...You did him a huge favor by letting him move into YOUR home and needed to step up in dealing with his daughter. I don't blame you one bit for not allowing her to terrorize you or your son in YOUR own home. The BF needs to either get out or deal with it," u/SatelliteBeach123 said.

u/InspirationalBug3 added: "NTA. Rehome the boyfriend."

Newsweek has reached out to u/Independent-Safe1780 for comment.

Other 'AITA' Moments

Earlier this month, Redditors criticized a dad for excluding his stepson from a "bonding" trip with his biological children.

In June, commenters applauded a woman for not wanting to cover her stepson's college tuition costs.

And in March, Redditors praised a woman who admitted to leaving her boyfriend and his daughter at a rental car company more than 800 miles from home.