Mom's Reason to Cut 'Entitled' Son Out of Will Divides Opinion

Reddit users have urged a woman to remove her son from the will after years of arguing over his college fund.

On November 15, user Gingersnapp_43, said things have never been easy with her son, 23. She added that she has always struggle to connect with him and, when he finished high school, he moved out.

Since then, their communication has been minimal, and he has reached out only to discuss his education. The woman began her post by stating she served in the army for 18 years. This means she qualified for a military benefit that provides educational assistance to servicemembers, veterans, and their dependents.

But she was unable to transfer the GI Bill to her son when he inquired about it two years ago because she "accidentally exhausted" it.

"[He said] it's my fault that he no longer qualifies for grants due to our incomes combined and why I did not transfer my GI BILL to him.

"I Informed him that I had exhausted it and that he is more than welcome to speak to a recruiter. He then said I should have set 50-100 aside each month to pay for his college. At this point I call him entitled and told him I don't owe him anything once he moved out of my household," she wrote.

The pair didn't speak for a year until he got in touch again about his college fund. However, the conversation wasn't resolved as she has no intentions of footing his education bill.

"In both conversations I did apologize for the mistakes I made along the way. As, it's clear they bother him, but this conversation ended with him stating he does not view me as his mother and blocked me on everything," the poster wrote.

Her son also told his sister, 25, that the mother is "nothing more than an egg donor." Now, the poster is considering cutting him out of her will and updating her life insurance policy.

The Other Children May Face Legal Challenges

Derek Jacques, an attorney specializing in will creation, told Newsweek about the post that has 9,500 upvotes.

"Parents don't necessarily have a moral obligation to put children in their will. However, I believe that parents would normally want to create wills, so their asset disposition isn't determined by the courts when they pass away," said Jacques, who works with The Mitten Law Firm in Michigan. "Whether they decide to leave everything to their children, their siblings, or even their cat, it is entirely their decision how to craft their will."

Jacques added: "In this particular situation, it appears the parent is struggling with a child that is upset that she can't or won't pay for his college education, or that the GI Bill won't help to cover it. Parents have to make up their own mind about how they want to help children. Do I think it is 'fair' to exclude one child from a will when there are multiple children? Personally, no. But professionally, it is not my call.

"However, I will say that I would warn any parent that decides to exclude one child from a will and include others that they are exposing their other children to a lot of potential legal challenges and probably some significant fighting between the siblings," said Jacques.

What Do the Comments Say?

The post has racked up 4,800 comments, and there seems to be a mixture of opinions.

An excerpt from the top comment with over 16,000 votes read: "Do it. He can't cut you out of his life and then demand that you give him something later. NTA [Not the a******] He can't have it both ways. If he wants money for college, he can talk to a recruiter, get a loan, or pay his own way. Or get a scholarship, just like I did."

"YTA [You're the a******]. If you make enough that he can't get financial aid IMO [in my opinion], you're responsible for helping with tuition," wrote another.

Newsweek reached out to u/Gingersnapp_43 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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