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One man drew the ire of thousands of internet commenters after his fiancé revealed the petty reason he wiped an entire project from their work computer.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Anna34757 said they were unable to attend a recent birthday party with their fiancé, and detailed his drastic reaction to finding out he'd be attending the gathering by himself.
Titled, "AITA for yelling at my [fiancé] and calling him insecure after he deleted my work project to get back at me for not going with him to his friend's birthday party?," the viral post has received nearly 14,000 votes and 2,500 comments in just 8 hours.
"My fiance's best friend's birthday party was yesterday," the Redditor began. "My fiancé wanted me to go with him but I apologized and said I couldn't."
"He said it was unacceptable since the party was held at a prestigious restaurant and all his friends were going to bring their partners," they continued. "He insisted I go with him but I told him if I don't complete this project soon I will lose [a] potential promotion next month."
Following their firm refusal, u/Anna34757 said they took a shower and went to work on the project, but quickly noticed something was awry.
"I went upstairs to finalize my project but found that my entire work laptop had been reset. Everything got wiped, including my project," they wrote. "My heart sank. I asked my fiancé if he was behind this and he just looked at me and said that now we are even."
"I started yelling at him and called him insecure to care about his public image and looks and getting 'even' just 'cause I had to work," they continued. "He said I contributed to this outcome and should've just gone with him...He said that I did make him look bad when I refused to come with him and he was hurt by that."
For couples, disrespectful words and actions (such as deleting a partner's entire work project) are a major red flag.
Among the countless signs of disrespect among partners, jealousy stands out as one of the most common.
In an interview with Wedding Wire, Dr. Logan Jones, a clinical psychologist and founder of Clarity Therapy NYC, explained that, although jealousy often sprouts from insecurity within one partner, attempts to sabotage each other's success are not conducive to healthy relationships.
"If your partner is wanting you to fail in some way or is actively trying to dim your shine, it may be that your partner is dealing with their own insecurities," Jones told Wedding Wire. "But when someone is continuously trying to make you feel small, that's not a safe space or a relationship where you can grow."
Jones also touched on self-victimization, and the negative effects that always blaming others can have on already-strained relationships.
"This mentality where victims pain that the picture that somehow others are the source of all their distress is often diminishing, fearful, paranoid and accusatory," Jones said.
Responding to the viral Reddit post, many commenters echoed Jones' sentiments, and slammed the original poster's fiancé for claiming to be "hurt" immediately after putting his partner's career in danger.
"He compromised your career progress, destroyed your valuable work and time, and has the audacity to turn it around on you and complain about HIS feelings being hurt?," Redditor u/InannnasPocket commented, receiving more than 10,000 votes.
"This is beyond 'petty'—it is emotionally and financially abusive for him to destroy your work," they added.
Redditor u/JBagginsKK, whose response has received more than 1,000 votes, relayed a similar message.
"Your fiancé did this to 'get even with you' and that is a MASSIVE red flag," they wrote. "If he is incapable of seeing beyond himself to the point where he thinks that, in working towards your joint future, you have slighted him enough to warrant literal revenge, you need to get the f**k out of that relationship."
"This is clearly a guy who values you as something to show off to his friends more than he does a genuine human being with goals and aspirations," they added.
In a separate comment, which has received close to 4,500 votes, another Redditor called the man's behavior a red flag, and encouraged the original poster to exit the relationship.
"Don't stay with this man. Please," they commented. "He literally stopped you progressing in your career over a birthday party."
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