New Mom Refusing To Attend Friend's Wedding Splits Views: 'Disgraceful'

A new mom divided opinion online after revealing that she declined to go to her best friend's wedding because of her newborn.

In a post shared on Mumsnet on Thursday, the woman, under the username Newmumma88, explained that back in December she announced that she was pregnant with her first child and two days later her best friend announced she was getting married in October and asked her to be her maid of honor.

The woman declined, saying that by then she would have a 3-month-old baby, and would probably not be able to attend the wedding. This answer angered the bride's sister, who took the matter in her own hands.

"Then her sister messaged me on Facebook to harass me and called me a bad best friend because I said no. She then said 'the world doesn't stop just because we have babies,'" the post read.

According to Women's Health, as a guest, you shouldn't take your baby to a wedding if they haven't specifically been invited, as some couples may go for child-free weddings.

When taking a child to a wedding, you should take a few precautionary steps to ensure everything goes smoothly. You should come prepared with towels, changing mats, bottles, snacks, and toys to keep your child happy and entertained and avoid drama.

Food at weddings can be fancy, and not to children's liking, so unless your child eats everything, you should also bring your own food. You should also keep crying babies away from the wedding ceremony and toddlers away from stuff they can break.

The magazine also suggests that you plan an escape route...

After receiving the messages from her best friend's sister, she decided to compromise and go to the wedding if she felt she could in the months leading to it.

When her best friend reached out again to confirm the number of guests for her wedding, the new mom "politely declined" again, feeling she didn't feel comfortable traveling to her place, which is five hours away, with a newborn. She also felt she still hadn't fully recovered from the birth.

"Cue her sister unleashing more abuse. This time, calling me a 'disgraceful best friend' and then blocking me so I can't defend myself," she wrote.

In the end, the new mom decided to go to the wedding on her own, leaving her baby at home with the father, but her friend still wasn't happy, saying she was only going to come because her sister made her.

Among the 152 comments, some couldn't really understand her reasons for refusing to go to the wedding and others were more supportive.

One user, Whataretheodds, said: "I'd block them both [ToBeHonest], they sound despicable." While NCFT0922 said: "Sorry but I don't understand why you can't go. Obviously, their behavior is unacceptable but I think [YouAreBeingUnreasonable]."

Another user, LadyDanburysHat said: "Do not go to the wedding. This is not a best friend. If she was, she would be more understanding."

Another user, Insideallday commented: "I wouldn't go now based on her and her sister's reaction and I would tell her that. But I do think [YouAreBeingUnreasonable] by declining in the first place, you could have made more of an effort."

And abovedecknotbelow added: "Their behavior is sh**ty, but I don't get why you can't go. You've p***ed her off by not even trying to find a solution and she's p***ed you off by her reaction. The friendship is over isn't it."

Newsweek was not able to verify the details of the case.