Scorned Man Backed for Calling Out Coworker Over Wedding Invite Snub

Internet commenters were dismayed after one man revealed why he wasn't invited to a coworker's wedding—and how his absence was covered up with a web of lies and deceit.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/weddinginvite69 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said he was supposedly a casualty of a venue with limited capacity and detailed the heated aftermath of his decision to inform other staff members exactly why he was barred from their coworker's recent wedding.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding?" the post has received nearly 7,500 upvotes and 1,500 comments in the last day.

"I've been working for my company for 7 years now, five of which have been spent on my current team," OP began. "There are 15 people on it and I'd say we're all pretty close."

Continuing to explain that his coworker "Bob" announced he was getting married on a Zoom meeting during the pandemic, the original poster said that when wedding invites were first given out to other team members, he was informed he didn't make the cut because of a "spacing issue."

The original poster also said that, after the wedding, he was questioned about why he was not in attendance and had no issue telling the truth.

"At work the following Monday my team member, Sherri, told me that everyone was confused as to where I was," OP wrote. "Apparently Bob said I was sick and couldn't make it...[but] I straight up told her I wasn't invited.

"She looked shocked, and asked me to confirm and I said...I wasn't invited," OP continued. "Today was Bob's first day back from his honeymoon and it must have gotten back to him that I spilled the beans.

"He approached me in the break room and he was upset that I told Sherri and that it wasn't a big deal I missed the wedding," OP added. "But other team members came up to me and said that Bob should have invited me, and it was wrong he didn't."

After finding the perfect venue, competent caterers and finalizing the ever-exclusive wedding party, soon-to-be married couples are faced with maybe the most difficult question yet: Who will be invited?

The guest list, whether intimate or hundreds of names long, is a major source of stress for many couples, and a point of contention for some.

Though friends and family members not included in the wedding party usually make the final cut, bosses and coworkers often find themselves on the chopping block, especially for couples who'd rather keep business and pleasure completely separate.

Most guest lists, however, are not as cut and dry.

And while marriage outlet The Knot maintains that couples should never feel obligated to invite professional acquaintances to their wedding, there are always exceptions.

When work friends double as friends in real life, it makes sense to include them on the guest list, but when there is the potential for awkwardness in the office, the safest choice is to invite everyone from work, or nobody.

"If you work on a smaller team and you're considering inviting a handful of coworkers (that you aren't particularly good friends with outside of work) then it gets trickier," The Knot asserts. "You really should think of your invite list in circles ... either invite the entire team or skip them altogether."

On numerous occasions, the original poster said he was upset he was excluded from his coworker's wedding, even though there was no obligation to invite him.

"I realize that it was his wedding day and he's allowed to invite who he wants," OP wrote. "But I'm allowed to be upset that I wasn't invited, right?"

Throughout the comment section of the viral post, Redditors assured OP that his hurt feelings were valid and that he is justified to be upset. However, many Redditors remained focused on his coworker, and his attempt to cover up the fact that OP was never invited in the first place.

"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/kr0mb0pulos_michael wrote in the post's top comment, which has received nearly 16,000 upvotes. "You didn't ruin his wedding day, and you didn't say anything prior to the wedding.

"Bob straight up lied to your colleagues about why you couldn't attend, which is incredible bizarre and a major [a**hole] move," they continued. "You just corrected his 'mistake.'"

Redditor u/siamesecat1935, whose comment has received nearly 6,000 upvotes, echoed that sentiment.

"Bob was the [a**hole], not you," they wrote. "Yes he's allowed to invite, or not invite, whoever he chooses. But that doesn't mean he can lie as to why you weren't there. That's s**tty."

"If he was worried about what people would think if he didn't invite you, he should've invited you," Redditor u/newaxcounr added, receiving more than 4,000 upvotes. "It's his wedding and he can do whatever he wants but obviously people are going to find out and he can't expect you to lie on his behalf."

Newsweek has reached out to u/weddinginvite69 for comment.