'She's Not Into You': Couple Criticized For Handling of Marriage Issues

Commenters criticized a couple's methods for dealing with marital issues.

The original poster (OP), or u/threwphoneaita, posted about the incident in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received 6,100 upvotes and 1,300 comments. The post can be found here.

According to Healthline, it is important for couples to set boundaries in order to maintain healthy communication within a relationship.

"It is important in setting boundaries to identify your basic human rights," licensed psychotherapist Judith Belmont told Healthline.

Some basic human rights Belmont outlined include:

• The right to say no without feeling guilty.
• The right to be treated with respect.
• The right to make my needs as important as others.
• The right to be accepting of my mistakes and failures.
• The right not to meet others' unreasonable expectations of me.

In the post titled "AITA for throwing my wife's phone out the window because she wouldn't stop texting her friend while we're at the cottage?" OP said he and his wife went to his parents' cottage to work on their marriage.

"Not huge issues, but issues. Nobody's cheated or gambled all our money or anything," the post read.

But during the trip, OP's wife stayed on her phone talking to her "writing friend" about their fictional characters. He said his wife is interested in a serious writing career, but is writing this story for fun.

"She's never going to publish this gay dark academia borderline fanfiction she's writing, and she knows it (this isn't my opinion, she's said this)," the post read. "I mean I would still be pissed with her working while we're supposed to be spending time together, but this is worse."

When OP told her that he wanted to use the trip to focus on their relationship, she agreed but said she had a "new stream of ideas" that she couldn't control.

"Which again, I could excuse if this was publishable stuff, but it's just her and her friend pretending to be two university students in love," the post read. "But I did something really shitty."

OP said he tried to initiate sex with his wife last night, but she rejeected him. He said that while people aren't always "in the mood," his wife immediately returned to texting her friend and "roleplaying" her fictional characters.

Angry, OP threw his wife's phone out the window but said he knew it wouldn't break because she has a sturdy phone case. His wife called him a "piece of shit" and refused to speak to him.

"I know no matter what I'm the asshole in all honesty, I'm just curious over whether this is an everybody sucks situation or not, and I have nothing else to do because she won't talk to me," the post read.

More than 1,300 users commented on the post, many criticizing both OP and his wife for their separate behaviors.

"I think them being university students is only part that's pretend," one user commented, suggesting OP's wife is interested in their friend.

"ESH. You for the phone incident, and likely misinterpreting intimacy signals, and her for not being honest that she doesn't value the marriage," another user commented. "She's not into you."

"Listen, as a former Huge A** Nerd that used to roleplay as characters over text with my exes, I can promise you...she's absolutely in the mood," another user wrote. "In fact, she's EXTREMELY in the mood. Just not for you."

Newsweek reached out to u/threwphoneaita for comment.

In another viral Reddit post, a bride was slammed for declaring her husband "took the spotlight" to "enforce his ethnicity" by singing her a song at the wedding.

Users also criticized a groom for smashing a piece of wedding cake in her face during the reception and another bride for banning her sister-in-law from the wedding for being too pretty.