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Thousands of internet commenters called out one woman for belittling her best friend's fiancé at the couple's recent engagement party.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/AdQueasy3077 (otherwise referred to as the original poster (OP) detailed her dismay for her best friend's relationship and revealed how a heartfelt speech sparked heated confrontation.
Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for calling my best friend dumb for 'marrying for love'?" the post has received nearly 8,000 votes and 3,000 comments in the last eight hours.
Explaining that her best friend, "Chrissy," and fiancé have been together for the last seven years, the original poster said she grew restless waiting for them to get engaged, but noted that they finally did earlier this year.
At the couple's engagement party, however, the original poster said she was disappointed to learn why it took more than six years for her best friend's fiancé to propose.
"Her fiancé made a speech dedicated to her and mentioned pretty much the reasons they didn't get engaged sooner and I couldn't help but pity my friend," OP wrote.
"He didn't have a stable job for the first few years of their relationship and...he got his degree in 2019 and only then was he able to get a proper job" OP continued. "He bragged and also 'thanked' Chrissy for never giving up on him and growing with him."
After hearing the speech, the original poster said she and her friends were immediately upset, and agreed that Chrissy had wasted seven years waiting for "a broke man" and that it was "pity worthy."
The original poster also said the group confronted Chrissy and made their feelings about her fiancé painstakingly transparent.
"As friends we decided to explain to her our perspective of how we think it was ridiculous that she had to almost reach 30 to move on with her life...when someone else could provide what she needed much sooner," OP wrote. "I told her it's dumb how she's marrying for love and not for stability and how she's basically wasted herself for 'love.'
"She called us all materialistic and classist and said...we are miserable b**ches who fill find no happiness in life and are very [shallow]," OP added.
Whether prompted by undying love, the desire for financial stability or any other emotional, economical or social factor, most marriages are not the result of singular motivations and likely shouldn't be, according to Psychology Today.
In 2013, Psychology Today contributor Susan Pease Gadoua examined the pitfalls of marrying solely for love and explained that, because lives are multi-faceted, and require more than just love, finding a partner who checks multiple boxes can lead to greater continuity and potential for prosperity over time.
The image of prosperity, however, varies from individual to individual. Where financial stability resulting from marriage is a top priority for some, prioritizing love and deepening connections is bliss for others.
Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors acknowledged this difference in preference and slammed the original poster for projecting her idea of a perfect marriage onto her best friend during what was supposed to be a celebratory event.
"Re-read your last paragraph," Redditor u/Tr_Irisden wrote in the post's top comment which has received nearly 23,000 votes.
"Chrissy nailed it," they continued, calling back to the original poster being labeled both materialistic and classic. "[You're the a**hole]."
Redditor u/unstablechickensh*t, whose comment has received more than 9,000 votes, echoed that sentiment.
"[You're the a**hole]," they wrote. "Without a doubt.
"You and your friends ARE materialistic and classist," they continued. "Who are you to say she is dumb for making that choice? It sounds like she's found a good man who appreciates her love and care, and you just sound jealous."
"Who cares what YOU and your other so-called friends think?" Redditor u/Top-Pangolin-4253 chimed in, receiving more than 3,000 votes. "You are basically saying you think she should have dumped him and found someone with more money."
Newsweek reached out to u/AdQueasy3077 for comment.
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