Widow Banning Brother Meeting Newborn After He Suggested Abortion Cheered

A widow banning her brother from meeting her newborn after he suggested she should get an abortion following her husband's death has been praised online.

The new mom asked Reddit for advice in a post on the site's Am I The A**hole forum, under username u/Throwawaybrother3, as she tragically revealed her husband had died in a car crash when she was four-months pregnant.

The post, which can be read here, was entitled "AITA for refusing to let my brother meet my son after what he told me at my husband's funeral?" It has amassed more than 14,000 upvotes since being posted on Tuesday.

While the woman didn't reveal where she was located, abortion has been a topic of intense debate in America after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade.

The near 50-year precedent, which enshrined a woman's right to a safe abortion under the constitution, was ripped up in June.

The ruling, described as "egregiously wrong" by Justice Samuel Alito, saw trigger laws come into effect into effect in certain states, effectively banning abortions overnight.

The mom, who would have been 17 weeks pregnant at the time, would only have been able to get an abortion in a handful of states following the ruling being overturned.

Planned Parenthood explained they offer two main types of abortion, the pill and an in-clinic appointment.

The mom would have been eligible for a Dilation and Evacuation (D&E) procedure, usually performed after 16 weeks, as part of the in-clinic abortions they offer up to 19 weeks pregnant.

The grieving widow explained how the conversation about termination came about, saying: "It's been difficult without him, but my family did so much to support me. I moved in with them a month after.

"At the funeral, my older brother asked for a minute to talk then asked me if I really wanted to go through with my pregnancy. I was shocked when I heard this but even more shocked when he suggested that I 'make the right decision, not an emotional decision and reconsider having my son.'

"He gave many reasons why including the fact how 'single/widowed mom' are considered too much of "baggage" for so many men to date. I lost it on him and kicked him out. That was the last time we saw each other."

Her son is now three weeks old, and she is not allowing her brother to meet his new nephew. She's standing firm over her decision, saying: "Whole family met him and were happy to welcome him. My parents asked if I could let my brother come meet my son even for few hours.

"I refused but they said I was making a mistake robbing my son of a future loving relationship with his uncle. They asked that I don't let my emotions dictate a decision that might have a lasting impact but I said no.

"My extended family got involved and started pushing especially after my brother started insisting saying my husband was a dear friend of his and what I'm doing right now would make my husband upset if he saw it."

She ended the post by asking: "Am I being bitter and selfish?"

Overwhelming Support

People overwhelmingly backed her decision, as Li_3303 pointed out: "And to talk to her that way at her husband's funeral- what the hell is wrong with him?"

Electronic_Bad_4315 wrote: "Not only that, but because her son and emotional baggage would be too much for men. Idk wtf he's on, thinking that any part of what he had to say was appropriate, let alone at the funeral."

Etaec wrote: "If it was me that brother died that day to me. NTA and tell your family to leave if they don't respect your decision."

Newsweek contacted u/Throwawaybrother3 for comment.