Woman Insisting Boyfriend Stops Adding Spices to Her Food Has Internet Torn

A post on social media has the internet torn after a woman insisted that her boyfriend stop adding spice to her food.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/AITA_Spicy_Foods shared her story to receive feedback from the "AITA" community. The popular post has over 7,000 upvotes and 4,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that she recently started staying over at her boyfriend's house more. They divided the chores around the house and one of the chores he took over was doing all the cooking. She described him as a "wonderful" cook and how all their friends enjoy the food he brings to parties. She admitted that she isn't familiar with cooking and has never taken the time to learn it.

"This is fine since he cooks, but his meals usually include too much heat," the OP explained, "He cooks with a lot of spices, sauces, and peppers. I've asked him time and time again to tone it down since I can't handle the heat. Or at least add those last so he can still have them but my dish will be fine. He says this will ruin the dishes and they won't come out as flavorful and be really lackluster. And that added the spice at the end ruins the whole balance of it.

"I finally snapped the other night and yelled at him to stop making hot dishes I can't eat and he told me that I was always welcome to cook my own meals if I wanted. I don't see why I have to cook if he already is making the meal, he can just add less spice to it. That will add so much more time to my night when he is already handling that chore," the OP concluded.

Newsweek reached out to u/AITA_Spicy_Foods for comment.

How to split chores fairly while living with your significant other

There are many duties to do around the house on a daily basis including washing dishes, dusting, taking care of any pets and doing the laundry. When you move in with someone, it can be easier to split up the daily chores, but how does one split them fairly? According to marriage.com, here are some ways to fairly divide household chores:

• Begin by creating a list of duties that need to be done.
• Pick the chores that you enjoy doing.
• Have a discussion with your partner about who is more concerned about how guests view your home to decide who cleans the house.
• If you are overwhelmed with the number of chores, if applicable, look into hiring someone to help.
• Be sure to voice your expectations.
• Plan ahead each week.

Newsweek has published several articles about sharing chores, including a man who revealed his girlfriend's tactic to make him do chores, a dad who paid his son for all the extra chores secretly assigned by his son's stepmom and a wife's genius way to get her husband to do chores.

Redditor reactions

"Going rogue here: [Not the a**hole]," u/Rhuthbard wrote, receiving the top comment of over 17,000 upvotes, "You share chores and your bf does his in a way that doesn't benefit you or makes you do your own, negating whatever benefit you get from splitting responsibilities. Worse, your bf doesn't care that you can't eat what he makes. He could certainly make some adjustments or make some meals you can eat. If I were you, I'd think long and hard about this relationship."

"[Not the a**hole], the chores have been divided up and one of his is cooking. Saying 'do your own' cooking is like if you just hoovered your side of the room, or only did your laundry etc. what's the point of splitting up chores at that point? What if you were vegan and he kept making meat dishes? Then he'd be the [a**hole] but now people are saying [you're the a**hole] when the result is the same - you can't eat what he makes," u/Alternative-Pea-4434 explained.

U/charlieprotag said, "YOU DON'T EVEN LIVE THERE and you're complaining about his cooking? Are you serious? Do whatever you did before you started staying over. [You're the a**hole]."

U/sunfloweries commented, "[You're the a**hole] sounds like a good reason to stop making excuses for yourself and learn to cook, doesn't it?"

"[Everyone sucks here]. Sounds like y'all aren't compatible," u/Elle_Vetica pointed out.