Woman Shares Dating Red Flag in Video Viewed 6.8 Million Times, Internet Debates Result

Footage from a woman's doorbell camera shows the moment her date drove away before she could walk through her front door. Unimpressed, she shared the "red flag" moment to her TikTok page, which prompted thousands to debate whether her date did anything wrong.

The woman also revealed a second red flag in her comments, but according to one etiquette expert, her expectations in that case might be a bit outdated.

TikToker Jade (@jadealyzaee) posted the video to her account over the weekend. Already, the post has attracted 6.8 million views and 1.3 million likes.

The video opens with Jade walking to her front door. As she does this, eagle-eyed viewers can spot a car driving by in the background.

"When your date doesn't wait for you to get in your house before driving away," the video's caption read.

As she reaches her door, Jade looks back to see that the car has gone. When she begins to unlock her door, she says, "And he didn't even wait until I got in the house. Red flag number two—I am ghosting."

The video ends with Jade entering her home.

In the comment section, Jade revealed that the first red flag of the evening was "not opening any doors for me. He did pay though, so props for that."

Customs such as holding open a door for a woman have roots in the "medieval concept of chivalry," according to The Lily. These rules were created by men who thought women should receive special treatment because of their gender.

Etiquette expert Lisa Orr told the website that customs such as this aren't necessary in today's world.

"It had a time and a place and a purpose," Orr said. "But just like we don't tip hats anymore or curtsy, there were all these conventions that don't reflect how we live our lives today."

She added that in today's world, men and women should alternate opening doors based on who reaches the door first.

"I think you can think of holding open doors as a social courtesy for people and not something that men have to do for women," Orr said. "If all genders are created equal, then you have to be equal all the time."

But TikTokers believed that waiting for someone to get inside before driving off is just common courtesy, and is something everyone should do regardless of gender.

"Some of y'all's parents didn't raise you right," said Charlotte. "You always wait for the person to get into the house regardless of who it is."

Madison agreed, saying, "It's just human decency to wait for anyone to get inside."

"Date or not, you should always wait 'til they are inside the house," said Breeves. "I normally walk up with them just to be extra sure they're okay."

Some commenters even shared that their rideshare drivers have patiently waited for them to enter their homes before driving off.

"Even my Uber waits for me to go inside," said Cindy.

"Literally my cab driver waited for me," shared well-known TikToker birdtails.

However, others didn't think her date did anything wrong. In fact, some thought she was wrong for ghosting him over this "red flag."

"Y'all ask too much," commented Matthew.

"How about communicating why you won't be seeing him again?" asked Sarah. "How about being the more mature one?"

Kaya said that Jade's refusal to tell her date what he did wrong was her red flag.

"Least you can do is tell him. That's your red flag," she said. "Ghosting isn't nice. Tell him what he did wrong. Some guys simply didn't learn this."

One commenter took issue with both of Jade's red flags.

"Why should he open doors for you? You've got two functioning hands," Natascha said. "Why does he have to pay? You ate too, right?"

All in all, commenters had pretty strong reactions to Jade's video. But while everyone was arguing Jade's point, one commenter put himself in her date's shoes.

"Just imagine not knowing you're about to get ghosted before the rest of the world does."

Ouch. Hopefully, he doesn't have a TikTok account.