Fiancee's Strange Overnight Disappearance Leaves Internet 'Very Suspicious'

A Redditor has been urged to confront his fiancee after she spent a night away from home in what many felt were "very suspicious" circumstances.

But while social-media users appeared quick to jump to conclusions, one relationship expert says that it is better to address concerns head-on rather than play "detective."

Cheating might be an unforgivable act in the eyes of many, but it remains a prevalent issue, with a 2021 survey of 441 adults by Health Testing Centers finding 46 percent of respondents in a monogamous relationship admitted to having affairs.

It's little wonder then that sometimes even the slightest of missteps by a partner can set off suspicions and, in certain cases, accusations of infidelity. That appears to be the case of one Reddit post shared to the forum by a user with the handle Rnevermore.

He had originally taken to the online forum to share a dilemma concerning his fiancee's fury at the fact he called the police after she failed to return home one night.

However, after sharing his story, Reddit users began to point out that it was not necessarily his behavior that should be a source of concern but rather his fiancee's.

It all started when she left at around 7:45 p.m. to "give a friend's son a ride back to his home." She originally said she would be home around 9 p.m. but texted just over an hour later apologizing and explaining the friend's son "was actually in the next town over," so it had taken longer to drive back.

Despite promising she was on her way home, midnight came, and she was nowhere to be seen. "I called her to no answer. Texted her to no response," the Reddit poster wrote. "I was getting very upset."

At around 1:45 a.m. and after hearing nothing from her, he decided to call the police and report her missing. "I asked them to let me know if there had been any traffic accidents involving her car, and the operator told me that they would put out the word and send some cops to check along the route she would travel," he wrote.

Eventually, she came home at around 7 a.m., apologizing and telling him she "felt tired" while driving home, so rather than "falling asleep at the wheel," she had pulled over and napped.

She also claimed her brand-new phone had "stopped working," so she had been unable to call him. Despite landing himself in hot water with his partner for calling the police, the vast majority of people commenting on the post felt the fiancee had more to answer for.

Sethra007 wrote: "Very suspicious. She's lying, and not doing a particularly good job of it." Cynthia_Castillo667, meanwhile, commented: " If police were looking for her on roads where she claimed she would be, and she was napping in her car on said road, they would have found her."

Neither-entrance208 wrote: "We aren't talking about hours long of a drive, just the town over... If she was so tired she could have stayed with her friend, not drive to some random area in between to sleep."

Others took a more extreme view. HereFoeDaBull wrote: " hate to tell you this but your fiancé is cheating," with Due-External8607, meanwhile, posting: "Don't make her a wife before this is cleared up with legitimate reasons."

While social media appeared suspicious, relationship psychotherapist Silva Neves told Newsweek that it's important to address concerns directly rather than try to play "detective" by snooping on a partner.

"Being a 'detective' is not good for mental health because people tend to spend a lot of time ruminating about what their partner is doing to the point, which can impact on their work and home life," Neves said.

"Be honest with the partner suspected of cheating and ask them if they are seeing someone else, or if they are thinking about seeing someone else. They can explain why they are suspecting, or worried about, an infidelity."

Neves added: "This will give the partner a chance to explain what is behind their behaviors. If they say they are not cheating, the person suspecting their partner of cheating can respectfully request for reassurance: for example, calling them when they work late in the office."

Newsweek tried to contact the original Reddit poster. We were unable to verify the story independently.