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A bride-to-be was backed online after admitting that she didn't go to her own engagement party because she was upset over her partner's "prank" beforehand.
The woman explained in a popular online post that her fiance proposed to her just days ago. He, she explained, is a fan of pranks. His latest however left her in tears and refusing to attend the engagement party funded by his family.
According to research by YouGov on April Fools' pranks, 41 percent of respondents found them annoying while 46 percent found them amusing. For this bride-to-be's age group of 25 to 34-year-olds in the same survey, only 33 percent found them annoying, marking it as the most open age range to pranks.
Seemingly, there comes a time when even those with "patience" towards constant pranks, as described by the woman, draw the line.
"My fiance and I were getting ready," she wrote in a post to Reddit's "Am I the A**hole" where she gained over 9,000 votes. "I noticed my engagement ring wasn't where I left it before I entered the shower. I freaked out and looked for it everywhere. I asked my fiance about it and he said he didn't see it. I freaked out and was running out of time for the party. He sat there watching me, almost losing my mind trying to find it, to the point where I started crying because without the ring, I couldn't show up to the party.
"I kept thinking about what his family would say and how they'd think it was irresponsible to lose the ring that is somewhat expensive," she added.
After giving up her search, the truth was revealed by her husband-to-be: he had it hidden the whole time. It was a "prank." According to the fiancee, he could barely get his words out because of his laughter.
"I was in shock," she fumed. "He casually told me to get ready so we could 'get there in time' but I just sort of blew up on him and started yelling saying he hid the ring, made me freak out for almost two hours and almost made me miss the party.
"I told him I wasn't going to the party and that if his family asked I would tell them it was because he hid my ring. He freaked out and started begging me to let it go and just go with him but I refused and went into the bedroom, took my medication and stayed there. He lost it and kept saying that I blew this out of proportion and that I ruined my own party and cost his family $$$$ and disrespected them by not attending," she continued.
"His family found out and they were mad at him but also me for choosing to not attend and getting over it but I was in a horrible state emotionally and couldn't handle being in a public place after what happened."
Despite his family's belief that the couple were both in the wrong, Reddit users were left supporting the bride-to-be in her decision not to attend.
"A prank that results in a loved one's emotional and physical panic for hours is not funny. Not okay. You did not 'make' a big deal out of it - it IS a big deal that he likes to be cruel and finds it amusing to see you suffer," noted one displeased user.
"HE ruined a special evening because HE wanted you to be stressed and suffering instead of wanting you to feel loved and happy as you deserved on such an occasion and he disrespected and tainted the ring that is supposed to represent your unity and love for one another. This is fully on him. He made a mistake in believing that he could manipulate you into 'relaxing' about his cruelty, but you respect yourself too much to play along. I'm proud of you for valuing yourself when he clearly doesn't value you."
"I would never put that ring on ever again," they advised. "He ruined everything but at the end of the day you dodged a bullet. He doesn't deserve you."
Another added that it was the length of time that made this prank so bad, writing: "Two hours? A prank is two minutes. You sure you want to stay with this man? These pranks aren't funny. He doesn't stop. He blames you when you don't go along with his childish sense of humor. So he doesn't respect you.
"This isn't a one-time thing. Think about this. Wait for the wedding, when he thinks it's funny to make fun of you during the toast."
"Not a prank. It was mean," agreed another user. "If it were a 'prank,' he would give it to you after no more than a few minutes of looking for the ring. But even as a 'prank,' it was an a**hole move. Think hard if he has done other things like this to you before. He sat back and watched you panic and cry for two hours."
Newsweek reached out to the poster, u/Sunshine34341, for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.
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