Internet Rages As Husband Blames Cheating on Wife's 'Comfortable Underwear'

A husband was slammed online after telling his wife of just two months that the reason he cheated was her lack of "sexy lingerie" in their relationship.

Newsweek spoke to a marriage therapist, who described the husband's decision to attached the blame to his wife's underwear as "extremely damaging" and added that no husband should cheat, no matter any "lack of effort" by the wife.

In a post to Reddit, which gained over 12,000 votes, the 35-year-old wife explained that she had believed that her marriage was doing okay, having only been married for two months, but together for four years.

Their intimate life was "amazing" and she had no reason to believe any infidelity. Until last week.

"I found my husband with another woman in our bed. I started running away in shock and he couldn't really leave the apartment before putting his clothes on. Enough time for me to take the elevator alone," she wrote.

After fleeing to her family's home for the weekend, she received calls and texts from her husband. Despite being ignored digitally, the husband showed up at the home to talk about things.

"My husband looked like he had been crying the whole weekend and wanted to hug me. I told him to stay on his side of the kitchen island and NOT to come nearer or I would scream," she wrote.

"He started first with a half apology and later explained why he was cheating on me. I never made an effort for him. I'm always wearing comfortable underwear and never the sexy type. That's a turn off for him. He felt like I didn't really care. I was stunned and didn't understand what he meant. Why didn't you tell me this? Why not try to buy me sexy lingerie like many men do to their wives?" she asked.

"He said he didn't want to 'offend' me by suggesting that my underwear was dull and a turn off. So it was basically my fault that you cheated? He didn't say no, just looked at me, crying his eyes out."

The wife explained that she wears neutral, cotton underwear as "sexy" underwear is inconvenient thanks to her larger chest and having to constantly adjust the bra. "Plus I don't feel unsexy in my very comfortable undies at all. Not once. I love my body. I work out 1.5-2h a day and I'm very confident in my own skin," she added.

Now, she plans on starting the process of divorce. "I hope you get f**ked by karma wearing a sexy red lace g-string," she joked.

Newsweek spoke to licensed marriage therapist Jamie Schenk DeWitt about the dilemma, who said it's "not okay or acceptable for him to do this."

"Putting the onus for his need to cheat on you is gaslighting, avoidant, and extremely damaging to your self-esteem. Please trust and know that your husband should not have cheated no matter what type of underwear you wear or lack of effort he thinks you exhibited," she said.

"If your partner was unhappy in your relationship due to your supposed lack of effort, then he owed it to you, himself and the relationship to be honest, respectful and self-aware enough to talk with you about his feelings before taking any actions, especially cheating. I hope that you can internalize this to be true and can move forward with self-assurance to find a plan to deal with your relationship in an empowering way."

Schenk DeWitt's views on the situation were echoed by Reddit users who weighed in on the popular post.

"I'm at a loss for words. Please don't take him back," pleaded one user.

Others debated if the underwear was ever to blame for him at all. "He may as well have used the 'I tripped and fell' excuse," wrote one user.

"Ah yes, clearly he has x-ray vision so that he knew that his affair partner wore beautiful underwear before they had sex," added another.