Man Applauded for Taking Nephew to Get Nose Job Behind Brother's Back

Online commenters criticized a father who admitted to being angry about his 18-year-old son's "secret" nose job.

Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum under the username u/Due-Eggplant-6702, the father asked: "AITA for banning my brother from family events after he paid and took my son for a nose job?" The post has garnered over 6,900 upvotes and over 3,100 comments from Redditors who applauded the uncle for funding his nephew's procedure.

About Nose Jobs

Nose jobs, or rhinoplasties, are one of the "most common cosmetic surgeries performed in the U.S.," Mount Sanai, a New York hospital network, explained.

"According to the latest statistics from the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, more than 213,000 people receive a nose job each year," either to change their noses' appearance, improve breathing, or both.

Mount Sanai added that rhinoplasties are "common" among teenagers; however, experts encourage younger patients to wait until "their nasal bone has reached its adult size" before undergoing the procedure.

"Typically, for girls, this occurs after puberty around age 15, while boys may need to wait longer until they are 17 or 18 years or older," the hospital said.

It's also worth noting that, while all surgeries carry risks, "rhinoplasty risks are small and complications are rare," the Mayo Clinic stated. "People are usually back to performing most activities after a week and resuming all activities after two to four weeks."

'Am I The A**hole'

In his post, u/Due-Eggplant-6702 said his 18-year-old son wanted the surgery, not because he was having "problems" with his nose but because he didn't like the look of it.

"My son is 18 and [has] always had an issue with his nose," the father wrote. "Okay, it's slightly hooked but it's not ugly or causing problems. He asked for money to get a nose job. I said no. His mom said no."

So, the teenager's uncle stepped in to help.

"My brother [is] very tight with him and promised him the best graduation present ever. We were thinking an oscillating fan or a gift card...He got him a nose job," the father recalled.

"It was this big secret that I didn't know [about]. He actually lied about being at his mom's and lied to her about being at my house then [said] he was at his friend's [house] when he was [really] at my brother's for a week after the procedure," the father continued.

The father said his son looked like he'd been "slugged in the face" following the surgery, and that he now looks unrecognizable. Still, his son is "happy."

"My brother said he did nothing wrong, just did what [my son's mom and I] couldn't do and paid for it, and [to] accept it because our son is not a little kid," the father concluded. "I feel so betrayed that I banned my brother from coming over."

Redditors React

Commenters slammed u/Due-Eggplant-6702 for being upset with his "generous" brother.

"YTA [you're the a**hole]. Also, it doesn't matter that you think it wasn't causing problems for him, he obviously thought it was for him. Your brother listened and you didn't, so you don't get to be mad at your brother," u/msmith730 wrote.

"YTA. So your brother, an adult, took your son, another adult, for a cosmetic procedure which is perfectly legal and something your son (the adult) wanted. [Do] you want to lose your son AND your brother? Keep this up," u/sheramom4 said.

Redditor u/carmelfan added: "So, you feel 'betrayed' that your son is happy. YTA. And grow up. Your son is lucky to have such a generous uncle."

Newsweek reached out to u/Due-Eggplant-6702 for comment.

More 'AITA' Moments

Redditor u/Due-Eggplant-6702 isn't the first parent to go viral in the popular Reddit forum.

Last week, a new mother received commenters' support for choosing to breastfeed her child at her brother's wedding reception. A father also received praise in the forum last week for ending his daughter's engagement party over a cruel remark her fiancé made to his other daughter.

And last month, Redditors defended a father who said he never told his "disrespectful" parents about his daughter.