Man Bashed for Suggesting Sister-in-Law Doesn't Know Who Her Baby's Dad Is

A man has been slammed online after he suggested that his sister-in-law didn't know who the father of her child was.

In a now-deleted post on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a man under the anonymous username u/VladPas shared his story in order to receive opinions from the "AITA" community. The post had over 3,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

The OP began their story by explaining that he and his wife recently found out that his sister-in-law is pregnant. However, she won't say who the father of the child is and has plans to raise the baby alone. Everyone was eager to know, but she refuses to tell anyone.

"At a family gathering, my MIL kept insisting on finding out the baby father and my SIL kept avoiding the question each time. It went on till I said that maybe the reason she doesn't want to tell us the father's name is because she doesn't know it herself. My SIL then started crying and then run off, which honestly kinda confirmed that I was right, but me and my wife were asked to leave," he explained.

The OP's wife was upset at what he said. On the way home from the gathering, she called him a "pig" and an "idiot." Now, she won't allow him to sleep in their bedroom. He believes she's overreacting because she knows how her sister "is easy and sleeps around" and he doesn't think his idea is "far-fetched."

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Redditor reactions

U/Wickedlove7 wrote, "[You're the a**hole]. Did you ever stop and think maybe she told the father and he told her A) get an abortion b) I want nothing to do with you or the baby. C) she was raped and hasn't come to terms with that but wants the baby d) none of your damn business who the father of the baby is. You could have kept your mouth shut. Kindness cost you nothing.

"You were purposefully cruel and you know you. Also women have sex, women have multiple partners. Get the f outta here with your thinking she has multiple partners so the clear answer here for her not telling us is she doesn't know. No the clear answer is thousands of reasons all of which end with none of your business," the commenter continued, receiving the top comment of over 17,000 upvotes.

"[You're the a**hole] For the clear blatant slut shaming and the unnecessary comment in public," u/ladylyrande said.

U/haxtratus-8156 stated, "What kind of bulls**t is this. [You're the a**hole] - you embarrassed a pregnant woman in front of her family. And no, her crying does not confirm s**t. How anyone can be this insensitive is beyond me."

"[You're the a**hole] for stating it at a family gathering and not keeping that quip to yourself. Regardless of if it's true or not, it's still an a**hole thing to say to someone. And the slut-shaming isn't helping your case. Saying she is easy and sleeps around is rude. That's how dating is now a days. But it seems only women get s**t on for it," u/anonymityneverlast commented.