Man Slammed for Saying Sister's Dream Wedding Is 'Knock-Off' of His Own

The internet has slammed a man for telling his sister that her upcoming wedding is simply a "knock-off" of his own.

In a now-viral post on Reddit's popular r/AmITheA**hole forum on Saturday, user u/NoPhilosopher716 shared the story of how he and his sister had fallen out.

In the post with thousands of upvotes and comments, he explained: "I have always been 'the favorite' among my siblings. As the baby of the family and the only boy, I got doted on a little extra. This extra doting increased when I expressed an interest in dance and actually discovered a talent for it. This makes sense in my mind: my schedule required more time and money devoted to it since I now had to be taken to classes and showcases, needed the proper attire, etc."

Despite the poster admitting there were some years of tension between himself and his sister, he said it seemed to calm down when they went their separate ways and moved out of the family home to pursue careers and college.

A few years earlier, the poster had married his husband in an intimate ceremony: "Despite what my parents tried to talk us into, we got married in a tiny ceremony at the local courthouse where only immediate family was present. We had a party with our close friends and family later to celebrate, but the ceremony itself was just like we wanted: a small part of an intimate and peaceful day focused on my partner and I."

Recently, his eldest sister got engaged and the poster explained that his parents jumped at the chance to start planning what he called an "over-the-top wedding."

"I've been around for some of it and a lot of what is being offered to the new happy couple is what was suggested to my husband and I when they were trying to convince us to have a big wedding. This didn't bother me at all. In fact, I was happy my sister was getting what seemed like the wedding of her dreams," said the poster.

But tensions started to rise again recently when the wedding was discussed, the poster said: "It seems she's still holding a grudge over what happened when we were kids and has made multiple jokes about how 'she's the favorite now,' and that this is 'payback' for all the things she missed out on when I was being chauffeured to dance practice. I took the first few in stride, but it's getting tired now that it's been repeated so many times."

As wedding plans have continued, the siblings have continued to clash and the poster said it came to a head at the weekend when the family got together for some drinks.

"I told her that her wedding was essentially a knock-off of mine, and that I doubted our parents would be putting this much effort in had I gone through with the extravagant plans they had wanted me to a few years ago," said the poster: "She left the room in tears and I've gotten mixed reactions from family over what I said."

​​Director of Romance and Weddings at Spot On Event Nehar Ullah-D'onofrio told Newsweek: "Fallouts happen a lot around weddings. This is mainly due to the emotions everyone is going through. The pandemic has been tough on us all with wedding plans changing numerous times. Add this to the already emotional time and you do get siblings falling out."

Asking the internet "AITA?" [Am I the a**hole], the man received thousands of replies as Redditors told him he was in the wrong for his behavior toward his sister.

"Yes YTA [you're the a**hole], and it sounds like you've been TA their entire lives. You happily soaked up your parent's attention, knowing you were the favorite and didn't even care that they didn't share your golden child status," said one reply.

Another Redditor wrote: "After years of feeling unimportant to your parents, your sister can't control her giddiness at finally having their attention. While her comments are obnoxious, it speaks to a lifetime of being overshadowed by you."

"Sometimes there may be hidden jealousy that comes out around other weddings," said Ullah-D'onofrio: "Remember it's someone's most precious day. We are celebrating love and companionship. Bitter words or jealousy, or even 'but I would do this,' can cause distress and upset at an emotional time, and even lead to longer bitterness that can be avoided."

Newsweek reached out to u/NoPhilosopher716 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.