Man Urged Not To Give 'Cheating Wife' Second Chance After Shock Confession

A man has turned to the internet after discovering his wife cheated on him and people are advising him to follow his instincts and leave her.

Reddit user HippoOk9111 explained his wife went away for the weekend on a "girls trip" with her sister and some friends but rang him crying after the first night.

The 39-year-old man wrote: "When I finally calmed her down she told me she had slept with someone else the night before. Supposedly, she met a guy, who SHE approached, they flirted a little, and danced together, and she thought that was as far as it would go."

The internet has been left in shock after the man asked the 33-year-old woman to detail every detail of what happened. The post claims that his wife of 13 years had multiple sexual encounters with a man ten years younger than her.

"She said she lied and told him she was going through a divorce. She says she doesn't know what came over her, and she just wanted to 'see if she still had it' but got carried away," he wrote.

The wife has since left the family home in England to stay at her mom's while he attempts to deal with the situation.

He wrote: "I want to leave her. She's begging me not too, offering marriage counselling, never going out again, never drinking again etc. I've always been a one chance sort of guy."

However, his mom is trying to persuade him to stay in the marriage because of their 7-year-old daughter.

He explained: "She said I should 'think of my family' and that my wife seems genuinely remorseful and didn't try and hide anything, and came clean straight away. That it's 'not like she had an affair.'

Saying he felt like he was "insane," he posted, " Am I wrong for not even considering forgiving her?"

According to a 2022 YouGov study, three in four Americans who have been cheated on have subsequently dumped their partner after finding out. One in five who have been cheated on say they have never broken up with a guilty partner.

'The Relationship Will Need Incredible Care'

Newsweek discussed the post, that has 8,200 upvotes, with marriage therapist Frank Thewes, who owns Path Forward Therapy LLC in Princeton, New Jersey.

He explained that therapy has helped a "significant proportion of couples find ways to overcome a betrayal and rebuild their relationship."

"The fact that it was just a one-time infidelity might moderate the husband's ability to forgive and accept. But he may also never trust his wife again either way," he said. "I would expect that the husband spends months to years grappling with the painful emotions that his wife's choices caused for him.

"The relationship will need incredible care and structure to end up healed after something like this. The husband may continue to doubt his role as a lover and a partner to his wife because of her choices. Or, the husband might find his way to the perspective that his wife chose her destructive path because of her own inner issues and not because he was lacking in some way."

What Do The Comments Say?

The post has received 6,200 comments in less than 24 hours.

One said: "You're not wrong at all, she broke your trust. Now every time she goes anywhere will she do this again? And she didn't have sex with him 1x she told you it was multiple times. Turn your phone off and take your daughter out for a meal. Spend time with her before your wife gets home and starts love bombing you both and strong arming you."

"Your family now has 2 choices," another said. "A happy divorced couple that raises a kid. Or a resentful married couple that raises a kid while fighting."

A third commenter said: "I feel you need to do what makes you happy. I could personally never stay with someone who pretty much pursued someone to the point of cheating. Multiple times in one night. I wouldn't be able to trust that person."

Newsweek reached out to u/HippoOk9111 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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