Outrage as Woman 'Insisted' Boyfriend Switch Meals as She Didn't Like Hers

The internet has slammed a woman after she "insisted" that her boyfriend switch meals with her because she didn't like what she ordered.

In a now-deleted post published on Reddit's r/AmITheA****** forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/Dntworryimamoderator shared her story to receive the opinions of the "AITA" community.

The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that she and her boyfriend have officially been together for three months, but have been "flirt buddies" since middle school.

Whenever the couple goes out to eat, her boyfriend orders "basic" things off the menu like a cheeseburger and fries. However, she explained that he enjoys exotic foods but feels "overwhelmed" when looking at menus and making choices. OP wrote that she loves trying new foods and finds it "exciting."

The only downside to trying exotic foods is that sometimes she doesn't like what she ordered and would much rather have a burger. Typically, she asks her boyfriend to switch and there's never an issue as he ends up enjoying it.

"To me it's a win for both of us, it gets him out of his comfort zone and we don't waste food," she said.

OP began to discuss where the conflict began. One evening, they decided to go eat at a sports bar since they were both working late. On the menu, OP saw that the calamari looked delicious and ordered that while her boyfriend ordered a burger.

When she received her order, she found that she didn't like it. She asked her boyfriend if they could switch meals and he refused.

She said, "I asked him why not and said I didn't want it to go to waste. He said then you shouldn't have [f******] ordered it. I was like excuse me. He the went into a tirade and said I treat him like a garbage disposal, he's a grown man, I'm being immature, don't pin my crap on him, etc... I said it sounded like that was a rehearsed speech."

"He said maybe it was since I 'insist' on stealing his food every time we go somewhere. I started crying and said don't start that b******* with me, here have both meals and he got up and walked out," she continued.

She didn't hear from him since their dinner. She called her sister at 5 o'clock in the morning and called her out for waking her up early and that it was "crappy" of her to put pressure on him like that.

Newsweek reached out to u/Dntworryimamoderator for comment. We could not verify the details of this case.

Newsweek has published several articles regarding relationships including four signs your relationship isn't working and relationship red flags you should go to therapy over.

Types of communication styles

"As humans, it is very common to have different communication styles from our partner, friends, family members, and co-workers. The key is to recognize this discrepancy and to take measures to ensure it does not cause any issues," Dana Pallo, a licensed professional counselor on Sesame, told Newsweek.

Pallo explained the four key communication styles:

• Assertive: Assertive communication shows a self-confident and calm demeanor. This type of communication shows healthy listening patterns and can be known as the most effective form of communication.
• Aggressive: Aggressive communication shows a defensive and demanding demeanor. A person who uses an aggressive communication style cares only about their needs.
• Passive: People who use a passive communication style like to avoid conflict by agreeing with someone else's decisions. They are very agreeable and can be unaware of their own feelings.
• Passive-Aggressive: "[This] communication style makes attempts to alert their partner to their needs, but holds onto resentment and anger for having to do so. This communicator cares only about their own needs as well," Pallo told Newsweek.

Redditor reactions

U/ninasimonerules wrote, receiving the top comment of over 47,000 upvotes, "[You're the a******]. Why is he the one that has to deal with your experimenting? If you don't like it order something else but make sure you pay for both."

"[You're the a******]," u/hwilliams0901 said, "That would drive me nuts and honestly your BF did that for way longer than I would have. Also, who calls someone else at 530 in the morning to complain about s***?? Double YTA. Order food you like like a grown up."

"[You're the a******], you know he's not comfortable with something but you keep making him do it over and over again. Just because you didn't insist doesn't mean he doesn't feel forced," u/Mad_Cowboy_64 pointed out.

"[You're the a******]. Sounds like something that happens nearly everytime you go out....that gets old fast. You come off as someone who thinks it's a 'cute thing!' you do, but it's not. It's rude and presumptuous and he is right that you are treating him like a garbage disposal," u/bright_copperkettles commented.