'Sleep With Them Tonight': Mom Backed for Kicking Out Fiancé's Loud Friends

Members of a popular internet forum stood in solidarity with one mother who kicked her fiancé and his friends out of her home after a noisy night of gaming.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Mamaeestressada (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she agreed to let her fiancé have a few friends over but explained how a few hours of camaraderie transformed into a disgruntled group of men and one sleepless infant.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for mistreating and kicking my fiancé and his friends out of the house?" the viral post has received nearly 6,400 votes and 800 comments in the last day.

She said she and her fiancé had their first child just two months ago. Her husband asked to spend two or three hours with his friends on a Friday night at the couple's house. Granting the request, the original poster said she brought her infant to her mother's house for a quiet dinner while her fiancé.

Upon her return to the couple's home, OP put her son to bed and attempted to go to sleep herself. Unfortunately, sleep was not easy to come by.

"After [two] hours, I (who is a heavy sleeper) woke up and right after that [my son] woke up," the original poster wrote. "I went into the living room (where they were) and I gave [my fiancé] a hard look."

"I went back to sleep, I didn't even see if they were gone," she continued. "I woke up again with noise and it was almost 2 a.m. (keep in mind that I went to dinner with my mother at 8 p.m.)."

Storming into the living room, the original poster said she screamed at her fiancé and his friends, but was met with laughs. Enraged, the original poster said she told everyone it was time to leave immediately.

"My [fiancé] started saying that another hour wouldn't kill me and that [he] deserved a break from being a father," she wrote. "They started pressuring me to stop being annoying."

"I opened the door of the living room and said out loud for everyone to leave," she continued. "Everyone was embarrassed and [my fiancé] was super embarrassed. He tried to retort with me and I completed by saying that since he wants to spend time with his friends so much, he should sleep with them tonight."

"Everyone left, my fiancé too, and I finally had a night's rest after putting my baby to sleep," she added.

For parents of newborns and infants, sleepless nights are to be expected.

Although babies can sleep for up to 16 hours per day, their sleep comes in short segments, according to Stanford Children's Health.

As babies get older, their sleep cycles change rapidly. While a 3-month-old child can be expected to sleep between 9 and 10 hours at night, and between 4 and 5 hours during the day, a 9-month-old child sleeps up to 11 hours at night and only 3 hours during the day.

Because these multiple-hour long periods come in short bursts, however, consistency plays a major role when it comes to actually getting an infant to fall asleep.

Regardless of age, Stanford Children's Health recommends that babies have very little stimulation or activity around bedtime and that parents adhere to a nightly bedtime routine—two things made much more difficult by a stable of loud houseguests.

Throughout the viral Reddit post's comment section, Redditors commended the original poster for initially accommodating her fiancé and his friends, as well as her decision to remove the men from her home at 2 a.m.

"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/RealTalkFastWalk wrote in the post's top comment, which has received nearly 13,000 votes.

"You agreed to 2-3 hours, gracefully acquiesced to an extension, and it went six hours before you blew up at them," they continued. "If [your fiancé] wants to play into the wee hours with his buddies, he can do it at their place once in a while, but not where an infant is sleeping."

"Also, there's no such thing as taking 'a break from being a father'," they added.

Redditor u/Temporary_Badger, whose response has received nearly 4,000 votes, said forcefully that an apology is in order.

"You honored his reasonable request and he proceeded to take serious advantage," they commented. "They were continually waking up you and your baby. He owes you a huge apology and if he and his friends can't be respectful, don't agree to this again."

"You gave him way more than you had agreed to," Redditor u/beetleink added. "You are already tired, and waking you and the baby up multiple times is disrespectful. If he wants a night to be rowdy with his friends, they can go to one of their houses."

Newsweek reached out to u/Mamaeestressada for comment.