'Uncomfortable': Woman Defended for Keeping Bank Info From Boyfriend

Thousands of internet commenters expressed major concern after one woman revealed the seemingly shady reason her boyfriend demanded to know all of her bank account information.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Dices1433 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said her boyfriend insisted she pay for a new gaming console for his son and detailed the heated aftermath of her refusal to do so.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for refusing to let my boyfriend have my bank account info to make a purchase?" the post has received more than 16,000 votes and 4,000 comments in the last eleven hours.

Explaining that they've been dating for eight months, the original poster said the couple was on good terms "regarding almost everything" but noted that, on several occasions, her boyfriend asked her to make purchases for his children.

"I didn't make a big issue out of it for the sole reason that those purchases were relatively small, all I had to pay was $30-60," OP wrote.

Recently, however, the original poster said the many small purchases suddenly transformed into a much larger request.

Writing that he called her when she was at work, the original poster said her boyfriend urgently demanded to know all of her bank account information, claiming that he wanted to buy a new gaming console for his son.

"He told me he was short on money and needed $300...I hesitated but agreed," OP wrote. "He asked for my bank account info so he could pull the money but I refused and told him to wait for me to [until] I get there."

"He insisted and said he'd handle it, all I had to do was just send him my bank account info after I [ended] the call with him," OP continued. "His insistence made me uncomfortable so I still said no and told him to either wait or I won't pay."

"He got offended and said 'I'M NOT JUST ANYONE, I'M YOUR [F**KING] PARTNER!!'" OP added. "Then [he] went on a long rant about how he ended up not paying [for] the gaming device...and now his kid is mad at him and it's my fault."

While emotional, informational and affirmational support serve as the foundation for most successful relationships, financial support is where even the strongest foundations often begin to crumble.

For married couples, tension over money is often a precursor for divorce, according to Business Insider. For less serious, short-term relationships, money-related issues can also indicate the beginning of the end.

Financial assistance—whether asked for, or offered—almost always creates lopsided power dynamics within relationships. And when children are involved, so is guilt and the potential for emotional manipulation.

Recently, Newsweek has reported on multiple Reddit threads detailing monetary requests between partners on both ends of the financial spectrum.

In one case, a father asked his partner for upwards of $30,000 to send his daughter on a European vacation. In another, a 27-year-old man suggested his 22-year-old partner skip a semester of college so that he could use her tuition fund to pay for car repairs.

While both men were vehemently denied, and the two women in question refused to lend substantial amounts of money to their begging partners, Redditors responding to the threads were adamant that such requests are major red flags for relationships and should factor into how couples move forward.

Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post published by u/Dices1433, Redditors warned of red flags and strongly advised the original poster to reevaluate her relationship.

"Oh hell no," Redditor u/singing_stream wrote in the post's top comment, which has received nearly 30,000 votes. "You've been with him for only 8 months and he's already demanding that you lend him money.

"Sounds to me like those small purchases he got you to do for his kids stuff were his way of softening you up so he could...request a big purchase and you'd be used to it," they continued. "He acted abusively by shouting and yelling when you said that you're not comfortable - he trampled all over a boundary that any reasonable person would completely understand."

Redditor u/LouisV25, whose comment has received nearly 30,000 votes, offered a similar response.

"[Not the a**hole]," they wrote. "That has red flag written all over it."

"You don't owe him anything. If you gave him the money, you may never see it again OR the requests will get bigger," they continued. "Rethink this relationship. It will only get worse."

In a separate comment, which has received more than 2,500 votes, Redditor u/PersehommatKiinostaa gave clear and stern advice to the original poster.

"Run. Now," they wrote. "Do not stay with him."

Newsweek reached out to u/Dices1433 for comment.