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The internet has slammed a woman who has been accused of wanting her boyfriend to be her "sugar daddy."
Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA****** forum, a man under the anonymous username u/New-Vermicelli-916 shared his story for the "AITA" readers to comment on their thoughts and opinions.
The original poster (OP) began his story by explaining that his "absolutely beautiful" girlfriend and friends like to "party with rich men they meet."
He explains that he isn't "NBA rich" but makes good money. He has plans to retire young and enjoy his life and does that by investing and saving his money. Due to the seriousness of his relationship with his girlfriend, he is taking her on a vacation to Jamaica in the upcoming weeks.
He admits that his girlfriend is envious of her friends as they receive "lavish" gifts from "admirers." She has told the OP this many times, with him growing annoyed of the comments.
He said, "I finally snapped and said that I could not afford to be a sugar daddy. She said her friends aren't like that. So I pointed out that they literally do not make enough money to support the lifestyles they have. I pointed out that one of them drives a $100,000 Lexus and she [works] part time at [a] restaurant as a hostess."
"She says that I'm calling her friends sex workers, which I would not do, and judging them. So I asked her to explain how her friends afford dinner out at very expensive restaurants while earning minimum wage in some cases," he continued.
When asked if he considers his girlfriend a "sex worker" as well since he pays for everything, he argued that he didn't feel that way and is proud of her career as a teacher.
Newsweek has reached out to u/New-Vermicelli-916 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.
How to deal with a partner who has "unrealistic" expectations within a relationship
"It is so important in a relationship to be curious about your partner's wants and needs rather than being judgmental," Amie Leadingham, a master certified relationship coach, told Newsweek.
Leadingham also explained that having unrealistic expectations can cause conflict in the relationship. What may seem unrealistic to one partner may not seem that way to the person with those expectations.
"By showing curiosity instead of judgment, you are showing your partner that you are willing to try and understand them even if you don't necessarily agree with them. This can go a long way in promoting peace and harmony within the relationship," she said.
However, if a person feels they need expensive or lavish gifts in order to feel loved, it could be time to re-evaluate the relationship, Leadingham said.
"It could be a sign that your partner's self-worth is based on materialistic things and superficial validation from others, rather than their core values as a person. If this is something that you cannot compromise on, then it may be time to move on from the relationship," Leadingham told Newsweek.
Newsweek has written several articles on relationship tips, including first-date red flags that should never be ignored, a therapist discussing four signs that your relationship isn't working and some online dating red flags you should heed.
Redditor reactions
U/mdthomas wrote, receiving the top comment of over 19,000 upvotes, "[Not the a******] You have two choices. Sit down with her and have an adult conversation that although she may be jealous of all the gifts her friends get, you do not/can not get her all those same things.
"If you're paying for most of the luxuries/bills whatever, you get a big say on what luxuries are enjoyed. Or you can end the relationship. She sounds a bit immature," the commenter continued.
"[Not the a******] But if she is all about appearances and having nicer things, please know she will ditch you when the person who can afford those things comes along," u/WickedAngelLove warned.
"[Not the a******] --- Next time she complains about not getting some expensive gift tell her to ask one of her friends rich men to pay for it then," u/ShaneVis commented.
"[Not the a******] If she loved you or even liked you, she'd be more appreciative. You are an adult and you already know whether you want to be taken for granted," u/Fit-Teaching-3205 exclaimed.
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