Woman Calling Man 'Sexist' After Asking for His Rent Money Back Sparks Fury

A woman calling her friend "lazy" and "sexist" after he asked her to pay back a loan has caused uproar on Reddit.

Posting to the True Off My Chest forum on Monday, user "tamonla" explained how his friend refused to pay back the money she owed him, leaving him unable to pay his rent. When he pushed back, she began making rude comments and told him to get his "broke a** a job."

Reddit users were disgusted by the story, with the post receiving 13,400 upvotes and more than 1,000 comments. However, the tale also ignited a debate about the dangers of loaning money to a friend.

What happens when you mix friendship and finances?

A 2017 study by the Bank of America found that money was a common cause of breakdowns in friendship. Surveying 1,000 Americans, it found that 53 percent had witnessed a friendship end over money.

Some 77 percent of respondents said mixing friendship and finances was a bad idea, although the size of an IOU that would end a friendship varied. Nearly three-quarters of those polled said they would ditch a friend who didn't pay back a $500 loan, but 40 percent said they'd end a friendship over $100.

It's not just loans that can cause chaos with your chums. A 2019 study by Vivatic revealed pay differences could also cause a rift between friends. Of the 1,000 Britons surveyed, 39 percent of high earners said they'd ended a friendship due to "incompatible lifestyles." The study also found wealthier Brits preferred to hang out with people in a similar pay bracket, with 46 percent choosing friends of similar means.

Unfortunately, 64 percent of low earners said their financial situation had caused them stress. However, 43 percent also felt their friends' higher salaries didn't bring them additional happiness.

'Parasite'

In his post, tamonla said his friend came to him "in dire need of cash." He loaned her money that was meant for the following month's rent, despite being low on funds himself.

"I'm still in college and there's barely any time to work, plus money just doesn't last the way it used to in high school," he said.

When he asked her to pay it back, his friend "found it offensive" and accused him of not being supportive while she was "going through a lot of crap." However, without the money, he cannot pay his bills.

"I tried explaining the state of things to her and she began saying sexist stuff like 'what type of a man asks a woman for money.' She even told me to get my broke a** a job. You can imagine the irony."

Reddit users were angry on the poster's behalf, with "HungryManHere" telling him to "ditch her."

"She isn't your friend bro," they said. "A real friend would be considerate of your situation and not think that they're so entitled."

"Educational-Glass-63" agreed, calling her a "user," while "FartacusUnicornius" dubbed her a "parasite."

"Wow, imagine needing to ask for money from someone, and then calling them broke and useless," commented "Doughspun1."

"Urmama22" suggested the poster "go the petty route" and tell their mutual friends about the situation. "They deserve fair warning," the reply said.

Others told the poster not to mix friends and money, with "Shnapple8" advising he "learn from his mistakes."

"It's not bad to help people out, but wherever there's money involved, you really have to be careful," they said. "Don't give people money that you haven't got."

"I'm sorry this happened to you," wrote "sowhoreible." "Unfortunately, this is one of those lessons that are always learned the hard way—sometimes more than once. I speak from experience."

"BraTaTa" commented: "Get evidence, bring her to small claim court. She's not going to pay you back from the way she reacted. Never let 'friends' borrow money that you're not willing to lose."

Newsweek reached out to tamonla for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.