Woman Praised for Not Allowing Child's Half Sibling to Stay Over

Commenters backed a woman for refusing to let her husband's other child live with her, explaining an affair occurred while she was pregnant.

The Original Poster (OP), known as u/tremaineunwill, shared their situation in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received more than 6,200 upvotes and 1,500 comments. The post can be found here.

Cheating During Pregnancy

Research has found that some men are more likely to cheat when their wives are pregnant, with an estimated one in 10 men cheating on their pregnant significant others.

Studies have also shown that the more pregnant their partners are, the more likely some men are to go through with cheating. Experts believe this is because individuals experience their lowest sexual desire in the first trimester of pregnancy.

"The results of this research show that men express higher levels of desire than women throughout pregnancy," one study reported. "These conclusions may be due to the fact that women, unlike men, tend to exhibit less concordance between their physiological and subjective sexual arousal."

'AITA?'

In the post titled "AITA for not wanting my husband's other child in my house?" the anonymous woman said her husband cheated on her while she was pregnant, resulting in a baby with another woman.

"I found out after the other child was born," the post read. "I have never been okay with this. It's exactly the kind of trash I tried so hard to have NOT be part of my life. If it was possible, I would have divorced him by now, but I'm stuck at a legal dead end and it's not possible."

The woman explained that for her to file for divorce in her state, both parties must be separated for at least a year. She said her husband refuses to get a divorce nor move out, however, they have a notarized agreement about their finances and shared custody.

She added in an update that she doesn't want to file based on adultery because it could make the situation "hostile."

Two Years Later

"Since he travels a lot, and between the baby, my parents, and my career, I've been able to avoid thinking too much about it," the post read. "Well, so I thought. It's been almost two years since then, and now he wants to bring that child into MY house."

The woman's husband recently came to a new agreement with his other child's mother, allowing him visitation rights at his residence.

"I'm not a stepmother to any child, and unlike in most of these situations, the house we're living in is truly only mine," the post read. "It's under my parents' names, but I got it when I got POA and they had to go into a care home. I'm not having this kid in it."

'Deal With It'

Both her husband and their families told the woman to "deal with it" because they are married, telling her she needs to "accept her stepchild."

The woman also said her family called her a "witch" for excluding a baby and "preventing siblings from having a relationship."

"I don't agree. This child may technically be siblings to mine, but I don't need to play mom to this kid to make a relationship happen," the post read. "I don't want any of this trash coming into mine or my child's safe space. Am I crazy for not wanting this child here?"

Redditor Reactions

More than 1,500 users commented on the post, many supporting the woman's decision to not let her husband's other son at her home.

"His affair child isn't your obligation," one user commented.

"This may not be a popular opinion since most on here say you have to be a perfect step-parent and accept all situations. But you are not at all the a**hole," one user commented. "I was in a similar situation and still get pissed off 30 years later. Don't let people tell you what to do or how to feel. It is your house—tell the father to go someplace else."

"You have no obligation to bond with your husband's affair child," another user commented. "You are legally separated and his obligation to his child has nothing to do with you. Just try to keep your anger directed at the adults in the situation. The child has no control over anything."

"Get a lawyer. A good one. He will bring his other child. You need a lawyer to evict him," another user suggested. "A lot of people who share a residence go through divorce. It shouldn't be this hard without another way out. Get a lawyer and file for divorce and evict him."

Newsweek reached out to u/tremaineunwill for comment.

In another viral Reddit post, a teen was praised for refusing to let her stepsiblings go on vacation with her and her mom. Another woman was supported for not sharing her inheritance with her stepsiblings, and one woman left users divided when she decided to hide her child's half-sibling from them.