Woman Slammed for Snapping at Boyfriend Who Wouldn't Share Food with Her

The internet has bashed a woman who snapped at her boyfriend after he refused to share his food with her.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA****** forum, a man under the anonymous username u/SaltInfested shared his story to receive feedback from the "AITA" community.

"My girlfriend is one of those people who, when you ask them, say they don't want anything but literally seconds later asks you for your food/to share," the original poster (OP) began his post. "It was cute at first, but now I'm kinda annoyed by it because sometimes I just wanna eat the food that I bought.. for myself."

When confronted about it, she apologizes and stops the behavior for a few days, but ultimately continues asking him for food.

Recently, he ordered takeout and asked if she wanted anything. She said no and he ordered what he wanted. When the food arrived and he began to eat, she asked him if she could have some. He refused and told her to find some food herself.

She snapped at him saying that "a bite or two wouldn't hurt" but he argued that he asked her if she wanted anything and she said no. He explained that she stopped talking to him and is conflicted.

Newsweek reached out to u/SaltInfested for comment. We could not verify the details of this case.

Newsweek has written several articles regarding conflicts in relationships, including a woman who was criticized for taking her boyfriend to a nice birthday dinner, a boyfriend who possibly scammed his girlfriend out of thousands of dollars and a "stay-at-home mom" who forgot to feed her boyfriend's daughter.

Things to remember when sharing food with your significant other

"Be mindful of cultural, familial and personal values around food and eating. In some cultures, sharing food is a way of bonding and establishing relationships, but in other cultures it is an individualized ritual," Elsa Quintanilla, a licensed marriage & family therapist available on Sesame, told Newsweek.

Quintanilla also suggested that being clear yet flexible when discussing the values and boundaries involving sharing food is important, as well as using "I" statements and expressing the intent behind these boundaries to avoid any misunderstanding. Once a significant other has shared their boundary around food, they need to be sure their partner understands how they would like to be honored.

Redditor reactions

"[Not the a******] I honestly don't get that game some people play. Order your own food, I'm not sharing mine," u/CrystalQueen3000 wrote, receiving the top comment of over 9,000 upvotes.

U/Accurate-Ad-4095 shared a quote from Friends, "[Not the a******], Joey doesn't share food!"

"[Not the a******] 'I want to eat my own food' is a pretty simple boundary to understand, respect and follow," u/Wendellisi explained.

"[Not the a******] Changing your mind once in a great while might be understandable, but constantly asking for someone else's food is rude. It isn't cute, and she needs to make better decisions. Doing it regularly seems like intentionally testing your patience," u/ScarletDarkstar said.

"[Not the a******], you've made it clear you don't like it and she kept doing it even though you asked if she was hungry but instead she wanted yours and got upset about it, pretty childish of her," u/Pub1c_P1rate commented.