'The Worst Is Yet to Come': Internet Backs Mom Who Lashed Out After Labor

The internet backed a woman for lashing out at her husband's grandmother in a new viral post.

Submitted to Reddit's popular "AmITheA**hole" forum, a man by the user name of u/YogurtclosetLow2153 was concerned that he was in the wrong for not apologizing to his grandmother on his wife's behalf. The incident in question ended badly when his wife told his grandmother to "f**k off." The viral post has over 14,600 upvotes and 1,500 comments.

The Redditor began his story by explaining that his wife went into premature labor at 31 weeks.

"It was entirely unexpected and both my wife and our daughter had a horrible time and it became quite dangerous for the both of them," he wrote. "My wife became preeclamptic among other serious complications and for the first week we weren't even sure if either my wife or our daughter would make it."

He was relieved when both his wife and daughter made it through the birth. His daughter would be spending many weeks in the NICU while his wife is also in the hospital. He revealed that his wife's experience hasn't been easy on her. He described her as an "active person while maintaining a somewhat healthy lifestyle during her pregnancy."

Since the birth of her daughter, she hasn't been able to hold her yet.

"My wife has had a lot of struggles so far with her birth trauma and feels so confused and hurt by her experience," he said. "She told me that she feels betrayed by her own body and even in some of her weakest moments she even said she regretted getting pregnant entirely because of how much she has suffered and she is so worried she'll never be the person she was again."

1 in 7 women who have given birth in one year will have symptoms of postpartum depression. There are over 4 million live births each year, and 600,000 women will receive a diagnosis. However, if a woman has a miscarriage or stillbirth, 900,000 women will also suffer from postpartum depression whether diagnosed or not.

The original poster (OP) stated that he has contacted mental health professionals to get his wife the help she needs to get through the tough stage.

The OP's family was anxious to check in on his wife, so they flew into their hometown to see her. He explained that he warned them how his wife was feeling and how sensitive she felt from giving birth. Instantly, his grandmother went right by her side to discuss the birth story. His wife explained it as "one of the worst experiences of my life."

"My grandmother responded by telling her that the 'worst is yet to come' and that struggling is what being a mother is about. My wife got very upset over this comment and started screaming at her to f- off and to get the f out," he explained. "I had never seen my wife like this and I could tell she was feeling extremely stressed and I quickly escorted my family out."

Taken aback by what his wife said, the OP's family was outraged that he didn't stand up for his grandmother. He took his wife's side explaining that he is her top supporter. He didn't bring up the tension between he and his family as she didn't need more stress. However, he admitted that he wanted to figure out how to deal with the argument himself.

The "AITA" community was quick to comment.

"They had ONE job but your grandmother just HAD to swoop in with that outdated mentality and tell a woman who's gone through hell and back the 'worst is yet to come' and that 'struggling is what being a mother is about.' WHO THE HELL TELLS SOMEONE IN YOUR WIFE'S POSITION THAT!? NTA, but you will be if you apologized to them to them for THEIR appalling behavior," u/therealknightshade exclaimed, receiving the top comment with over 24,600 upvotes.

"Your wife and daughter almost died and yet your grandmother thinks there is worse to come? And tells your wife that? No absolutely not. Your grandmother was way out of line. NTA. But consider mentioning this to your wife in the future so she's not blindsided when your family brings this up to her again," u/Cats-are-better2119 said.

"NTA. Your grandmother is a total AH for treating your wife like that and your grandmother is the one who needs to apologize," u/LookAtNarnia wrote. "Also your grandmother has no idea if the worst is yet to come. Raising kids isn't easy, but a difficult pregnancy and childbirth may be worse than that.

U/IglooInMyYard wrote a heartfelt comment to the OP, "NTA. Good job protecting your wife. Postpartum depression is very real and your wife has had a scary situation! Protect her, love her, and please get her talking to a doctor about these feelings."