Shock as Woman Falls 'In Love' With Husband of Partner's Mistress

The internet has backed a wife who admitted she has fallen in love with the husband of the woman her partner is cheating on her with.

In a post on Reddit's popular r/TrueOffMyChest on Wednesday, u/RefrigeratorOk4914 explained the situation. With a 6-year-old daughter, the couple have been together for six years, but the woman found out that her husband is sleeping with his employee.

"Her husband, let's call him J, contacted me," wrote the Redditor. "He was heartbroken and he thought that I ought to know. He provided me with text messages and dated when they've been in hotels.

"I recognized my husband's style and I recognized the other woman. I have seen her on multiple occasions when I visited my husband at work. She'd been nothing but kind and pleasant towards me and she always doted on my daughter."

Award-winning relationship coach Ceza Ouzounian told Newsweek: "Cheating can leave the person being cheated on heartbroken and feeling betrayed.

"You have given your heart and trust to that one person. You have created a life with them—you want them to love, adore and respect you as much as you do them. To find out they have broken their commitment to you and cheated on you is devastating," said Ouzounian.

Stuck on what to do next, the woman decided to meet with J and eventually told him all about her life.

"I'm currently not working after the pandemic I lost my job and now the economy I haven't really had any opportunity to find a job. Instead, I've been studying these past two years," explained the poster on Reddit.

"If I divorce now I won't be able to provide for my daughter, that would probably put her in my husband's custody as a primary provider. I asked him if he could wait for a few months, hopefully, longer therefore and to my surprise he agreed."

After this, though, she and J stayed in touch, speaking on the phone a few times a week, at first about their failed marriages, and then slowly about other things.

"We started going for walks, coffee, and movies. I found myself thinking about him often with a smile on my face," wrote the woman.

"For the last 3-4 months we probably mentioned our spouses once or twice. We talk about everything else, and he always makes me laugh."

Two weeks ago, the pair were on a picnic together when the man admitted his feelings: "He just blurted out 'I think that I'm in love with you'. When he then explained himself it just drove the point home that I also am in love with him," the Redditor posted.

"He said that at first, he wasn't sure why he was feeling like this towards me and explained it away as two jilted people finding comfort in each other but that he then realized that he wasn't broken anymore," wrote the woman.

She revealed that the pair were still waiting to expose their spouses, who aren't actually seeing each other as often as they were. Online, the woman shared her goals for the future, to secure a job and leave her marriage.

Asking for advice, the Redditor posted: "Am I pathetic for wanting to give J and I a shot and see where it could go? Can two broken hearts really find happiness together when their love story started like ours?"

But, online, other Redditors were quick to praise the woman and side with her, despite the complicated situation.

"You are absolutely not pathetic and I think it's wonderful something beautiful came out of a horrible situation," wrote one Redditor. "It's definitely complicated though, and won't be easy, so I wish you luck."

Another commented: "This is an oddly adorable love story. I'm sorry your spouses hurt you, but maybe it's a blessing in disguise."

Others were quick to point out how the situation could provide the perfect revenge. One commenter posted: "Go for it. I would love to see both of their faces when they find out you two are together. Why worry about them."

While the poster understood the sentiment, she said she didn't even care about their spouses' opinion anymore: "Is it a good sign that I actually don't care what they do or how they react? I stopped having revenge ideas in my head months ago. I just want to move on and provide a good life for my daughter."

Ouzounian said: "I agree with what the woman said about waiting to start their relationship until after they confront their spouses. Otherwise, it will complicate things.

"It would be really useful for her to speak to a relationship expert about how she is feeling and everything that has happened, to make sure she isn't taking any baggage into her new relationship."

Ouzounian said the woman must get her work and money in order: "I would also suggest that the woman starts looking at her finances and how she will be once out of her current relationship as she isn't working and is studying, so she doesn't feel like she has to rush into living with this new man because she needs to.

"It gives her peace of mind—money stress puts a strain on relationships and life in general—and means she can still support herself and her daughter."

Newsweek reached out to u/RefrigeratorOk4914 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.