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Members of a popular internet forum were quick to exonerate one expecting mother who said she inadvertently angered her brother's bride on the day of her wedding.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Breakmyheart94 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said many of her brother's wedding guests were shocked to see she was pregnant and detailed how a local priest sparked rage in her now-sister-in-law.
Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for showing up at my brother's wedding pregnant and announcing my baby's gender?" the post has received nearly 11,000 votes and 1,400 comments in the last 11 hours.
Explaining that she isn't close with her family—emotionally or geographically—the original poster said she doesn't have much contact with her parents or brother, but agreed to attend her brother's wedding which took place last weekend.
Adding that she is currently in the midst of a divorce with her husband, the original poster also said she is seven months pregnant and that only a handful of people knew that going into the wedding weekend.
"My husband and I recently separated, and after that I found out I was pregnant," OP wrote. "My extended family didn't know about the separation or about the pregnancy [but] I told my brother I was pregnant when we spoke on the phone before the wedding."
"He congratulated me and that was more or less it," OP added. "My parents also knew about the pregnancy."
But when she arrived at her brother's wedding, the original poster said she received a ton of unwanted attention—much to the bride's dismay.
"Everyone was super shocked to see me pregnant and alone," OP wrote. "A lot of questions followed, I answered them with as little info as possible and that was it."
"During the ceremony, the priest mentioned my pregnancy...to make a joke or whatever about what is next for the bride and groom," OP continued. "Bride was pissed off, because now EVERYONE knew I was pregnant."
"[She] came to me later and called me an [a**hole] for upstaging her wedding," OP added.
Figuring out the perfect time and location for a pregnancy announcement can be an arduous process—for some.
For others, like the original poster, there is no need for a lavish announcement and very little interest in spreading that information at all.
At some point, however, people will learn of the pregnancy one way or another. And while there are no concrete guidelines for how a pregnancy is announced, there are certain times when it shouldn't be.
Somebody else's wedding is one of those times, according to parenting website Very Well Family.
"While it might be great to make your news known at a family gathering where everyone is present, it is key to ensuring that you aren't stealing someone else's thunder," the website reads. "So hold your tongue if someone else has just made a big announcement, like their engagement or their own pregnancy."
"The same holds true for making the announcement at someone's wedding," it continues.
In her viral Reddit post, the original poster made it clear she tried to divert attention from her pregnancy, but was undermined when the priest officiating her brother's wedding made it the focal point of the ceremony.
Throughout the post's comment section, Redditors exclaimed that the priest was to blame for all of the extra attention and called out the original poster's sister-in-law for wrongly accusing OP of attempting to take over her special day.
"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/canuck_2022 wrote in a comment which has received more than 3,600 votes. "But the priest... yeah, the priest is the [a**hole] of the story."
"They shouldn't have mentioned the pregnancy in the ceremony," they added. "That was way out of line."
"You didn't announce anything, the priest did," Redditor u/apostic_camel added, receiving more than 1,200 votes.
Redditor u/throwaway_72752, whose comment has received more than 1,000 votes, echoed that sentiment.
"He inserted it in the damn vows!" they exclaimed.
In the post's top comment, which has received nearly 18,000 votes, Redditor u/Poekienijn asserted that, at seven months pregnant, the original poster would not have been able to hide her pregnancy, not even to save the bride's ego.
"[Not the a**hole]," they wrote. "You can't hide a 7 month pregnancy."
"Seriously!" Redditor u/JuicyPeachTrollop agreed, receiving nearly 6,000 votes. "Maybe bridezillas should stipulate on wedding invites that any guest that is pregnant is not allowed to come?"
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