Wife Backed After Husband's Coworkers Made Fun of Appearance: 'I Cried'

The internet has sympathized with a woman after her husband stopped inviting her to work events because his coworkers made fun of her appearance.

In a post on Reddit's popular r/TrueOffMyChest forum, user u/Old-County-4070 explained: "[My] husband stopped inviting me to his work events and it's because the guys made fun of my boobs."

The poster explained that she had recently discovered that his coworkers had been "rating" the breasts of the co-worker's partners.

Clinical psychologist and founder of Mindset Wellness and Consulting Dr. Kelly Workman told Newsweek: "In situations like this I think it's important for the person who was made fun of to have a say in how they would like for it to be handled. By informing the person of the situation and including them in the decision-making process, you are communicating that you respect their personal agency and empowering them to take control."

With thousands of upvotes and comments, the post explained that the couple has been married for nine years and the poster's husband has his own company with some friends.

"He is the major owner," she wrote: "They have 120 employees now. 80 percent men."

But a year ago, her husband had stopped taking her to company parties, events, or dinners.

"He made up some excuse about taking my mother-in-law instead or some other family member," wrote the poster. "I was a bit hurt but I thought that he was probably right."

Big Product Launch

Currently, the woman's husband is away on a big product launch in Europe and he took his sister with him.

"I admit that I cried when he excluded me this time too because this was a big deal for his company, but he promised me that he would take me on a luxury vacation instead—just the two of us," she said.

One of the other wives of a member of the company got in touch with the poster and told her the reasons she may be being excluded.

"In one of the conference rooms somebody forgot to turn the projector off from the previous meeting—the conference rooms are located in the middle with glasswork walls and doors so everybody can see inside," explained the poster. "On the big screen, there was a list of names. The wives of the owners and some of the management and my name were first. My husband heard about this and they had an internal investigation and it turned out that a group of co-workers was having fun ranking boobs of the wives."

"Having any part of your body rated on any metric by others could lead to body image struggles," said Workman. "Additionally, knowing that this was kept secret and finding out about it from someone else can be incredibly embarrassing and can damage the trust in a relationship."

"I'm so hurt and embarrassed now. I didn't know he was (ashamed?) of me. I'm 100 percent sure this is the reason why he doesn't want me there and I don't know if I should confront him about it," said the poster. "I haven't done anything wrong and at least I deserve to know what's been going on behind my back. I'm just so mad."

Lots of Support

Online, replies were quick to share their thoughts and support for the upset woman.

"You need to talk to him," said one commenter, while another wrote: "Uhhhh... are his coworkers 14 years old? This is disgustingly immature and creepy."

Another reply said: "My first instinct was that he's embarrassed about the episode and doesn't want you around such toxicity, and not that he is embarrassed about you or your boobs."

"When we don't have all the information, most of us will latch on to the negative stories our mind comes up with (e.g., my husband didn't tell me because he's ashamed with my body; there must be something wrong with my body). Without clear and direct communication, it can be difficult to quell any insecurities and negative thoughts about oneself," said Workman.

"You need to talk to your husband and tell him how much his behavior hurts you," said another commenter. "He is not protecting you by excluding you. You are not invisible."

Newsweek has reached out to u/Old-County-4070 for comment. We were unable to verify the details of this case.