Woman Who Didn't Stop Her Husband's Affair as She 'Wasn't in Love' Backed

The internet has backed a woman who let her husband cheat on her because she was no longer in love with him, and he still hasn't gotten over it.

In a post shared last Thursday on Reddit, under the username u/Maleficent-Fix1429, she wrote that she married her ex-husband when they were really young, and at some point during the pandemic, their marriage started to deteriorate.

She then discovered he was going to cheat on her with a much younger woman but instead of stopping him, she let him go through with it to serve him divorce papers since she didn't love him anymore.

According to Memphis divorce lawyers Miles Mason family law group, in 2022, the divorce rate is expected to be at least 44.2 percent, based on a marriage rate of 6.1 people per 1,000 total population and a divorce rate of 2.7 people per 1,000 total population. It means that, for every 6.1 people who get married, 2.7 will be divorced.

The Reddit poster now has a new partner, and they're expecting a baby together, while her ex-husband went on to marry the woman he had the affair with, who is about 20 years younger than him.

According to the Reddit post, the two couples met at the movies a few days ago, and things didn't go down well. "The fiancee said she didn't know I was expecting and asked her fiancé if he knew? Why didn't you say anything? he just mumbled something," the Redditor wrote.

"She told me they were engaged and I congratulated them. [boyfriend] congratulated them too and when he shook hands with [ex-husband] and wished him luck.

"[ex-husband] put the widest smile and said that [boyfriend] should wish himself good luck for me not to throw him like trash when I'm bored. It became dead silent and the fiancee was looking daggers at my [ex-husband]."

It turned out that the poster's best friend, who knew about her feelings when the divorce happened, told her ex-husband everything, and he was "livid" that she didn't try to stop him from cheating rather than let him go through with it and then divorce him.

After the encounter, the poster's new partner started feeling a bit off and his behavior changed, and she was left feeling like she was a bad person for not stopping her cheating husband.

Dr. Carole Lieberman, M.D., a psychiatrist from Beverly Hills, told Newsweek that the poster would be better off blocking her "so-called best friend" and ex-husband" as they are both "rumor-mongers" who are just jealous of her and will only continue to make trouble.

"As for her new [partner], she needs to go out of her way to make him feel loved and to encourage him to ask her anything he wants to know," Lieberman said. "For example, her new husband will likely be suspicious of her whereabouts and worried that she will look for someone new, and she needs to reassure him."

However, Lieberman added that the biggest problem in this situation is her new [partner]'s "coldness and sadness," which will drive her away, suggesting they should get into couples' counseling sooner rather than later.

"He is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, by being unpleasant to be around, he will drive her away and into the arms of another man, the very thing that frightens him most," Lieberman said.

Originally published on the r/TrueOffMyChest subreddit, where users reveal big secrets to online strangers, the post received more than 7,500 upvotes and 815 comments.

In an update post, the Redditor wrote that her partner is fine now, and the reason he was acting distant is that he was going to propose to her, which he did.

The top comment with more than 9,100 upvotes, by Sharp_Replacement789, read: "In the south, we call this giving him enough rope to hang himself. He chose, [and] you happily moved on."

Another Redditor srb-222 commented: "he cheated, you didn't stop it, but you didn't encourage it you didn't like find a girl to hit on him and see what he did. he apparently didn't know your feelings when it happened, so he cheated under the pretenses that you wanted the marriage to work. is he not the one who treated you like trash because he got bored?"

Newsweek reached out to u/Maleficent-Fix1429 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.